Wedding Gift Sparks Epic Text Battle: Is Marriage Etiquette Dead?

[ecoli73]

My wedding close to a decade ago, 12/26 and a table of dim sum.




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[SumoNinja]

The brides are the cheap ones, 100%. People should be invited because the folks getting married value their presence, not presents.

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That is ridiculous of the brides, how rude.

I just got married last year - had a very nice/beautiful wedding (and did it cheap ~7k) and I did not expect anyone to cover the cost of my wedding. It was just that a wedding to show our love to each-other and to invite family and close friends to share that day with us. We wanted them to come to spend time with us and for no other reason. I fully expected to pay for everything (granted our parents did help us out which is awesome - but they did not have to, they chose to and it was not expected). Also I did not expect gifts at all from anyone, I expected them to show up and have a good time. I had friends who came and well at least in the eyes of these brides "did not give gifts" but I don't care because them coming to my wedding - the fact that they are there is the gift and I am more than happy with that (they are the most amazing friends to have and that is what is important to me)! Spending money on a plane ticket to come to my wedding, spending gas money to come, buying a dress to come, getting a hotel room - that is a gift in my eyes b/c those things can get expensive esp. if you come from far away and when the economy is so rough and people just are not doing that well. A wedding is not for gifts. If you want to be/expect to be reimbursed for your wedding/reception then you shouldn't have a wedding or spend a ton of money on it - that's not whats it about.

Wife and I had a wedding the only cost about $2,500-$3000.

We invited those that we wanted to share the day with. We paid for dinner because we wanted to provide it. In no way shape or form should you even consider how much you paid for dinner in regards to the gift.

Good lord people are so self entitled these days. It's all about them. Makes me sick.


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what's next... include fee with your RSVP for Admission tickets?
Jeeze Louise.

Wow.... I am fairly certain there were a bunch of people that attended our wedding sans gifts, but I don't really know because I couldn't care less if they did or not. We chose to invite just about everyone we knew because we wanted them to be there and have a good time, not because we expected to cash in....

yes, thank you


few posts in the beginning shocked me a bit, lol

 

[petspoiler]

You reminded me of this.

One of our guests stole some of our presents. Never did figure out who it was.

Best post yet )

 

[Fat Homer]

Didn't read through this whole thread, but i will say i think its the brides fault... they threw the party, and they probably didn't give out a list of "gifts" they were expecting, so you cannot expect your guests to KNOW what you want...

Over here in Hong Kong, its quite customary for guests to give newly weds cash as gifts, and depending on the venue, the price either goes up or down, but that only works in places like this because its been customary for as long as i can remember...

On the other hand, in western countries, its not un-common to give newly weds funny gifts, or just normal everyday useable gifts, so i don't get why the brides are all up in arms... i think they are definitely the ones that need to learn etiquette...

 

[DavidW]

That's what happens when it's 2 brides or 2 grooms ..... Just saying. Maybe they should've had a union instead

What you''re "just sayin" is bigoted and homophobic....just saying......

 

[Naos1984]

Gone are the days when weddings are not a source of income but a special time to share your happiness with the world. The brides should have just shut up.

 

[Eyebedam]

What you''re "just sayin" is bigoted and homophobic....just saying......

Your need to point that out in your way of seeing things just shows how over sensitive you may be


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[dragonfish]

Your need to point that out in your way of seeing things just shows how over sensitive you may be


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He's not being overly sensitive, in what other way could that be taken?

 

[DavidW]

Your need to point that out in your way of seeing things just shows how over sensitive you may be


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no, just calling it like it reads, and wondering why no-one else called you out on it. It was a bigoted and homophobic thing that you wrote, otherwise you wouldn't have, couldn't have, written it. It could not possibly be understood in any other way

 

[Red Devil]

very rude.. of the brides.. all gifts should be appreciated..