Currently my 4 in grammode has been so harassed by my male dovii I have tried everything by putting in more hiding places, caves, etc. and I don't have another tank to put him in right now since my other one just cracked. I want to adopt him to a fish store but they won't take him because he's so beat up and is so timid they don't think he'll survive to be sold. What should I do? Also another concern I have is that my female dovii doesn't come out from her cave and rarely eats and the male barely even picks on her. Should I get some dithers and if so what type to make her more comfortable?