You cannot have a rational conversation with an irrational person.
Everyone fantasises about ways to extract revenge and that is normal and a way to feel empowered in a helpless situation, but only sick in the head people action those thoughts....
Oversimplifying but.....Get all your stuff when she is not there and quietly leave. leave nothing behind except what is hers. If you own it then put the house on the market, get an attorney and get a restraining order if you have to...don;t go back unless and until she is in serious therapy, and even then don;t go back uness you are prepared to risk episodes like this in the future...imo she is very unhealthy in the head, leopards don;t change their spots and there are plenty of other great women out there without the kind of psychosis that her actions symptomise. It is much better to be alone than to be with a nut job, no matter how nice things may seem to be when things are going OK.. Her cruel and sick action tells you everything you need to know about her, so now you finally know what she is really like, for your own safety and sanity GTF out of there while you still can. Don't argue, don;t fight, don;t allow yourself to be provoked don;t respond directly to any madness as that is what she wants, just GTF out of there and don;t 'enable' her any more. I hope to god you don;t have kids. Once you are out file for divorce asap.
jmho
