Wtf do I do now....Please help

[Camphilophus]

**** it dude, lets go bowling.

relationships suck, best thing and the hardest thing to do is just wait it out. Supposedly I'm always being an ******* but my girlfriend puts up with it. Every once and a while (rare) I just wake up and I'm like wow, why the hell did I do that yesterday?

I know how you feel (I'm 20.) Every time I go out and see girls I'm just thinking to myself "why the hell did I settle down so early?" But at the same time I see my friends trying to get with new girls every weekend and they almost always fail. It makes me feel good knowing I have something to fall back on but at the same time I just want to go out there and show my friends how its done lol.

I honestly don't believe in love whatsoever, my girlfriend is my best friend but at the same time shes such a *****. She does so much for me and I'd do anything for her but I know thats not love. I know I'll never find anything better so I'll just have to settle for what I have, not what I can get. I don't think theres a such thing as a perfect couple, ask any adult. Some people pretend, but those people are usually worse off than the rest of us, it will catch up with them in the end. I tell my girlfriend, I am what I am, either deal with it or find somebody else.

The most important thing of all is.. What are you looking for in a relationship?

This song always makes me feel better after having to listen to a day full of my girlfriend complaining about me.
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[jason longboard]

You know I just went through a break up after 3 years,before that I lived with a girl for 6 years.Im 33 now,very much want to get married and share a life with somebody.You need somebody though that is in love with you though,not obsessed.They need to enjoy life within themselves too and not rely on everything from you.Not sure if thats how you feel,is she super clingy to you,I mean loving you and putting her arm around you at events and such is great but does she need every 1 second with you to where you never have me time.Your also at the age that you really start finding your self more.You know what,its 2 in th morning and Ive smoked 3 cigars and just spent all night in a club with those same girls you see on campus but keep in mind that most are just wanting to do school,party,and right now at that age until they get that out of the way then thats about it and the ones that dont are more like your girl so yeah,you could party with them but if you like LOVE,then I would not keep your heart on your sleeve if you go that rout.Just dont do anything right now that would burn your bridge with her like kissing a chick or something stupid.If you guys are always up each others bootys then you may just need some time,dude Im 10 drinks deep right now,Ill check this later today,lol.Hang in their for now,good night.

 

[LemonHead]

Easy, hit the weights Lol
Read a book.
Kick it with your folks/friends/family
Keep yourself busy and mind clear. Only until then you will know what to do.
Take care.

 

[Johny]

go somewhere were you feel happy...eg. lfs, beach, stip club, where ever

 

[Red Devil]

Easy, hit the weights Lol
Read a book.
Kick it with your folks/friends/family
Keep yourself busy and mind clear. Only until then you will know what to do.
Take care.

i agree with you lemonhead..when life hands you lemons.... go exercise...workout...feel strong...look good .... gain confidance ... and exercise somemore...

 

[rmorse]

I just got a phone call from her. She says she is sorry, and that everything is her fault. She says she screwed up, and was in a weird mood yesterday.

 

[navygirl76]

im so sorry! im not exactly sure how old you are-but i can tell you that when i was in my early 20's i didnt know my head from a hole in the wall when it came to love. I married when i was 20-and i shouldnt have. I didnt love him, i thought i could help him. it took me seven years to find the heart to finally leave.

My honest advice for you is that you are really young. you have been with this girl for the last few years, and have never had an adult relationship that was serious with anyone else. i would say to break up, and stay single. You need to find YOURSELF, and who you are and what makes you happy. Be her friend-and in the meantime go out with friends, explore love and what its like to be in other relationships (dont get serious with any of them!). Im not saying to sleep around, im just saying to get out there and open your eyes and look around at what all is around you. If you arent sure if she is the love of your life then she isnt. trust me.
when you meet the person you ABSOLUTELY cannot live without you will know. If there is ANY doubt in your heart then its just not right.. follow your instincts-i wish i would have.
If you and her are meant to be, you will eventually go back to eachother. But i feel right now you need space, need to explore other options and go out with the guys and see what relationships are all about before even thinking of marriage.

 

[kendog1]

dude, i know this sucks, but its all a part of life, and you've answered your own question wether you realize it or not, if there is any doubt, then she is not the one, when youre with "the one" there is no doubt, youre young, so enjoy your life, it all come with time. I was married to the wrong woman for 8 years, not something i wish on anyone, take my word for it .

 

[jason longboard]

this entire if you doubt thing gets me sometimes because we are broke up now and I still have doubts about that.Some men start to get the problem of distinguishing true love from the feelings of sex,snuggles and the large amount of care you gain from being with someone a long time.Once you are that deep,especially if you are a caretaker type personality,then it is much harder to let go compared to some ppl.He may truly love her but just be showing normal male hormones of horniness and he may be better looking now and more confident than he used to be but never got to be a player for a while and never will if he stays with her.Bro,in the morning when she is sleeping can you look over at her and just look at her face and feel good inside,not just because she is finally quiet but like you picture her holding your child some day or just because .When your outside in the morn and shes still in bed do you wish she would hurry up and come join you.When she talks to ppl are more so to your self saying uuuuhhhhhhgggggggg,shut up,or are you thinking of grabbing her butt.You really got to decide if its true love or not but unlike how some ppl tell me the youll not question it thing,while the other half of ppl say its never going to be perfect,I think you are indeed young and within 3 years things should not be so bad.You may just be having a early life crisis.As far as learning more,I learned alot with my 6 year deal,more than if I were just floating around but the kicker is,in the end of it after all that time,it hurts alot worse.,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,On a side note,with all the little hearts and love you send out to us other dudes,it could be because you know,uh,maybe ,uh,you like the bros much much more than the ladies,

 

[rmorse]

this entire if you doubt thing gets me sometimes because we are broke up now and I still have doubts about that.Some men start to get the problem of distinguishing true love from the feelings of sex,snuggles and the large amount of care you gain from being with someone a long time.Once you are that deep,especially if you are a caretaker type personality,then it is much harder to let go compared to some ppl.He may truly love her but just be showing normal male hormones of horniness and he may be better looking now and more confident than he used to be but never got to be a player for a while and never will if he stays with her.Bro,in the morning when she is sleeping can you look over at her and just look at her face and feel good inside,not just because she is finally quiet but like you picture her holding your child some day or just because .When your outside in the morn and shes still in bed do you wish she would hurry up and come join you.When she talks to ppl are more so to your self saying uuuuhhhhhhgggggggg,shut up,or are you thinking of grabbing her butt.You really got to decide if its true love or not but unlike how some ppl tell me the youll not question it thing,while the other half of ppl say its never going to be perfect,I think you are indeed young and within 3 years things should not be so bad.You may just be having a early life crisis.As far as learning more,I learned alot with my 6 year deal,more than if I were just floating around but the kicker is,in the end of it after all that time,it hurts alot worse.,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,On a side note,with all the little hearts and love you send out to us other dudes,it could be because you know,uh,maybe ,uh,you like the bros much much more than the ladies,

But seriously. I don't think that just b/c I question it, it means a definite no. B/c I only question it when I am feeling like this: low. Jason, what you wrote hit home. (Not the playing for the other team part, the other stuff)

When I am happy, I cannot think of any other girl I want to spend the rest of my life with.


And please, to everyone reading this, do not think I am thinking about getting married anytime soon. I am 22. I will graduate from college in May. After that, grad school. That will be another 3 years. I will not/do not want to get married while in school. The soonest I see myself getting married is at 25.