Thanks to everyone that has contributed to my thread/s.
I think the general consensus is that there are softer water sa cichlids that will live long healthy lives in hard alkaline water but it's not always the case and in order to achieve this the effort put in needs to be increased, water changes need to be more frequent and the water should be very low in nitrates
For the reasons above I'm going to stick to central cichlids for now, hopefully this will keep the hassle and maintenance down a bit and I can have more time to sit back and enjoy my first cichlid tank ?
I'm now 90% sure I'm going to go with
Stanzzzz7
suggestion from an earlier thread of a group of meeki ?. Still gotta cycle my tank though so plenty of time to change my mind again ?