Very low bioload, and having lots of plants to absorb the nitrates. Also, just because people on youtube do it, doesn't mean it's great for the fish. I have seen plenty of cruel things on youtube. Not saying all people who have low-maintenance setups are cruel, some are designed in ways that negate the effects of nitrates or they have drip systems that change small amounts of water constantly. But seeing as how your tank is generating enough ammonia to bring nitrates to 20ppm each week, I think it's safe to say this isn't that kind of setup.
I would also recommend cutting back on feeding if you have to go without the water changes. Fish can go for days easily without eating, and if they eat less, they make less waste, and the water will stay safer longer.