i have a betta too, and its not n a bowl. i think that is just cruel. i dont see any need at all to put in a betta forum. like dannyboy said "this is about monsters" just my opinion..... 
There is nothing wrong with using the word lady, or any other female reference, it is a problem only when you use it to bring something/someone down. Which you obviously did when you said change the forum from monsterfish,com to ladyfish.com.danny boy said:better tell these guys that they are sexist then pal:
www.ladyfish.com
or maybe the new lady cabs initiative.
or 100 other sites i could list here with the word lady in them. persoanlyy i think your being very anal about this and your probably a right twat. why dont you guys just ban me instead of *****!n all the time?