I do not think the most important thing is to get the eel to eat if feeding is going to kill it. Feeders are not the best idea but can be safe. (I assume you are talking about goldfish.) I would try very hard to get your eel to eat worms or pellets. Eels like nightcrawlers and their smaller variations. (Also try squid.) The parasite lives in both the ocean and freshwater environments, so the shrimp you are feeding it may be infected. (It is not the shell itself that is infected, so removing the shell does nothing.) However, it is impossible for me to say anything about that because some shrimp is farm-raised, some ocean caught, etc, and this will influence the likelyhood of infection in unknown ways. I am still trying to determine this myself through correspondence with a few people who study them.
You can't just toss this one aside as normal or be so dismissive about it. There is an extensive literature on the nematode; many scientists suspect that
it is primarily causing the enormous decrease in the eel population experienced in the last decade or so and not humans, as you suggested. The nematode is lodged in the swimbladder and potentially prevents it from functioning normally, especially at high loads. This prevents the eel from getting to the sargasso sea to spawn. Much is still unknown about the nematode but it is not a parasite that can be tossed aside, with its potential to kill the host, and the relatively recent introduction of the parasite coupled with the general lack of knowledge on american eels and their spawning habits. It is not your normal lab nematode though -- these things are over a
centimeter (I have seen them about an inch!) and found in high concentrations. (The eels that I have dissected have had no less than 10 - and each eel was under 10 inches long).
If your eel is bloated, even a little, be suspicious.
Here is a picture a nematode infection:
http://web.abo.fi/instut/fisk/Swe/Parasiter/anguillicola.htm
I would just play it safe. If you have access to JSTOR, look up anguillicola crassus to find more information. You can come to your own conclusions.