Angry spouses

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Warborg;3629931; said:
You are correct in that, but the way we look at it is since I got laid off (28 days before our daughter was born). We decided that there was no hurry in me getting as job as most of the money would go to a baby sitter. So it would be better for me to stay home and watch (babysit) her. Plus, we feel better knowing our daughter is being cared for.


Thanks for all the input so far with the other posts too.
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Maybe the problem is her having to work and then still having to do the cooking and things at home. Maybe give her the child when she gets home and you prepare the meals and what ever else needs doing while she spends quality time with bub. Just a thought.:D
 
12 Volt Man;3629993; said:
do you think she could be secretly bitter that you got laid off?

just a thought. maybe she is resentful or something and is not telling you.
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i agree with this. also, try to sit down with her, and if possible, have dinner ready when she comes home. talk about what may be setting her off.
 
Having a new child is stressfull enough, couple that with a layoff and all of lifes BS. She's entitled to freak out and have a bad day, as are you. Just suck it up and deal with it man! Talk to her about it later when things are good. Ask her if there is anything you can do to help her out. Family life is TOUGH, but very rewarding. It ain't free , but it doesn't cost anything either. Good luck. Don't take this personal, but airing your dirty laundry for everyone on the internet to read might hurt her feelings if she ever came across your post. Talk to her - not everyone else.
 
i love how you guys try to rationalize for psycho behaviour. it is NOT okay and it only gets worse down the road. its usually an indicator of an underlying problem. better work it out before its too late and she talks to you like that for any little thing
 
I work with clients with emotional/mental and behaviorial problems- there is always some kind of a cause - "no such thing as no reason" as my boss would tell me there is always something else behind it.

that in turn has made me look at normal people in a different light- maybe have a sit down with your wife and explain to her that you didn't appericate being name-called "stupid" etc and to put someone down when they're already down isn't going to help the situation at all. That is when she has cooled down is reasonable. Then you guys could figure out what is bothering her.
 
Warborg;3629829; said:
Anyone have a spouse that likes to fight for no reason?

My wife decided to pick a fight with me for no reason last night.

Background story; I babysit our 6 1/2 month old baby while she works. The fight took place last night after she was home for 2 hours. We were watching a TV show then she went to the bathroom and I was still on the bed

Wife: Honey, come get these bibs.

Me: (walking into the bathroom) What do you want me to do with them?

Wife: (yelling)You don't know? Are you stupid? Why should I have to tell you? You live here! Put them where they belong!

Me: They don't belong anywhere. We put the bibs everywhere. Their are some in the laundry room hanging, their are some in the baby's crib, their are some on the baby swing, their are some in a drawer with the baby's clothes.

Wife: (still yelling)put them wherever!

I leave the room(return to sitting on the bed with the baby) but overhear her mumbling. She then goes to the kitchen where she spends the next 2 hours making noise(cooking food; chopping with a knife, banging objects).
She ignored our baby during this time.

I was like... WTF???? :screwy:

Sad part is she has done this a couple other times too. In the past I've clearly told her I don't read minds, she needs to make a complete sentence when she wants me to do something.

Does this sound familiar?
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I know us women can act like completely outrageous psychopaths sometimes.

You, my dear. You are running into a CLASSIC case of men vs. women.

Lemme try to explain the way a book I read explained it.
It's called "Men are like Waffles. Women are like Spaghetti."

Men think compartment-ally. Each little box in your waffle is a section of your way of thinking. You go from box to box. Everything is neat and orderly and you even have 1 empty box that you'll go to when you just dont want to think about anything. This is why you always want to "FIX" everything including situations. You come across an issue and you stay on that issue until its resolved. Then you are ready to switch boxes

Women are like a plate of spaghetti. All of our thoughts intertwine and each one will touch on another thought. That's why when we talk we can start out on what this lady said to us at work and end up talking about how we wish we had just bought that pair of shoes the other day.

So when your wife freaks out on you about BIBS. She has about 1,000,000 other thoughts going on in her mind and like many women, she cant quite verbalize what it is thats REALLY making her upset.
So she'll just bubble and boil and eventually explode about something seemingly ridiculous and psychotic. Like Bibs.


The thing is. She isnt mad at you so much because you leave bibs lying around.
What you need to do is let her cool off for a few minutes. Dont wait to long, or she'll end up thinking you dont care and she'll get more steamed.
But you need to try and pry it out of her what's really steaming her clams.
Be prepared.. it may be several different things.
 
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