do not allow anyone to bash your wife. you can overcome this issue. talk to her. there are 2 sides to every coin. it's not all her.
Angry spouses
- Thread starter Warborg
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1. If my husband posted a breakdown of our last fight on the internet, I would be extremely upset. I would regard it as a breach of the privacy we have in our household.
2. It may be that she would like to come home and not find bibs everywhere, but rather, find them put away -- somewhere, anywhere -- just so little feelings that you're not doing as much as she is to take care of the family go away for good. It doesn't matter where you put them. Just pile them up and find a home for them and that will be where they go. She obviously doesn't care where they are, as long as they're not staring at her when she comes home from work.
3. Most likely, there's a lot more going on than the bibs, but this is just one instance where you can make her life easier, so do it. It can't be easy for her to leave her baby every day and go to work, even though she knows the little one is safe at home with you. She probably misses the baby and it's not been out of her body for very long at all, really, and everything's still new. So give it time, and talk to her about what's really going on. It might take a while. But she'll tell. We always do.
2. It may be that she would like to come home and not find bibs everywhere, but rather, find them put away -- somewhere, anywhere -- just so little feelings that you're not doing as much as she is to take care of the family go away for good. It doesn't matter where you put them. Just pile them up and find a home for them and that will be where they go. She obviously doesn't care where they are, as long as they're not staring at her when she comes home from work.
3. Most likely, there's a lot more going on than the bibs, but this is just one instance where you can make her life easier, so do it. It can't be easy for her to leave her baby every day and go to work, even though she knows the little one is safe at home with you. She probably misses the baby and it's not been out of her body for very long at all, really, and everything's still new. So give it time, and talk to her about what's really going on. It might take a while. But she'll tell. We always do.
justonemoretank;3630922; said:
I hope you understand that when people post their issues on the internet it's so they can get a completely unbiased point of view because you are basically nameless. When you talk to people you know about it, you can get unsatisfactory information.
Liam;3631244; said:
yeah. i would not get mad at my husband over that. in fact it might make me feel better that he's getting loads of other points of view. even if he started out mad at me in his post. look at all the people that are trying to defend her and help him understand her better. .... Like you . You are trying to help him understand HER point of view.
Posting on the internet is fine as long as it's not under your full name. It's no different than writing an advice column. If it keeps you from blowing your stack and walking out the door or getting flippantly drunk at the bar and crawling home then hey it's better for you and cheaper than a shrink given two things. You do it to see her/his point of view and you are not looking just to validate that she's a ***** or he's an *******. You don't beat her/him over the head with it if you end up being exonerated by public opinion.
Why is she pissed? Well **** that's really easy. You are home all day with a baby that sleeps a lot, in short bursts. You have plenty of time to keep the house clean and yet she comes home to a complete mess and then has to cook dinner. If you are the stay at home then keeping the place clean is your damn job. There are very few exceptions the only valid one is you are the primary care taker of a disabled child or adult. You want this fixed easy, when the baby gose down for a nap have that monitor on your hip and clean one room or at least start. About an hour before she gets home put the baby in a baby swing in the kitchen and start dinner. You don't have to do a 4 course french dinner but cooking isn't that hard do something basic. I'm pretty sure she pictures you sitting on the couch watching lifetime (or spike) while the baby is asleep and she just got slammed with another dead line. My wife would assume I'm doing water changes all day and playing the PS3.
Why is she pissed? Well **** that's really easy. You are home all day with a baby that sleeps a lot, in short bursts. You have plenty of time to keep the house clean and yet she comes home to a complete mess and then has to cook dinner. If you are the stay at home then keeping the place clean is your damn job. There are very few exceptions the only valid one is you are the primary care taker of a disabled child or adult. You want this fixed easy, when the baby gose down for a nap have that monitor on your hip and clean one room or at least start. About an hour before she gets home put the baby in a baby swing in the kitchen and start dinner. You don't have to do a 4 course french dinner but cooking isn't that hard do something basic. I'm pretty sure she pictures you sitting on the couch watching lifetime (or spike) while the baby is asleep and she just got slammed with another dead line. My wife would assume I'm doing water changes all day and playing the PS3.
