I say find what you like, if it is sw, your frt, tig whatever. gatf, armatus, arrows honesty I think they are just too big and powerful to be kept in glass boxes at home. I have never owned any, but just look at them, not your falt most of the time these are kept by the most experienced keepers and these 3 are big and powerful bilt for the big river and not a 6-8'' box even a 600-1000g. A 22'' arrowana that fish could prob jump a few feet. Black are harder to keep alive than silvers from what I've read. Ignore the haters, you'll pull through, even though 10k you could of picked up some pretty hot chicks down in cbus in a 3000gt you could of had. lol damn..but all your losses aside hope ya stick around though your good for the hobby, I wouldn't call someone out who has a 20''+tig and had prob one of the biggest gatf on this site, and it died because it bashed its' head.
Good luck bigj