It sounds like you have an enormous love for the hobby since you have gone above and beyond so many times to help others also enjoy the hobby. That's really what this whole MFK community is about. We all help out based on the level of our knowledge. There has to be a healthy line drawn to protect yourself from such incidents or else it no longer becomes a "passion". That line is different for everyone. It's hard to be trusting after getting burned so many times - I hear ya. Not all of us has been there. I've been on the other side though - having to change plans due to an unexpected event - and I felt terrible. Sounds like you are a fellow "Ohioan" so even though I am not nearly advanced with monsters, I hope we can help each other out someday.