BoyFriend Left for Marine 'bootcamp', how to comfort her?

[Red Devil]

I know I'm gonna get flammed for this (USA power trip or whatever), but why don't we ALL bring home ALL our soldiers? American, Canadian, British, whatever... Just send them all home.

The US has wasted soooo much capital fighting this war (I'm not against what they've done, as 9/11 HAD to be justified) but I think it's time to come home? Just my opinion. Maybe start working on strenthening the economy? I had a buddy from school die in his third tour. 24 years old. Brutal.

i 100% agree with you but this is not the place to discuss politics.. it is against the TOS ..so please stay on subject.

 

[Red Devil]

What is offensive about saying its not a good idea for a 17 year old to be involved with a man going into the marines? Its just my opinion, no more no less.




The "let it go" philosophy is the opposite of good parenting. Its not about cutting kids out of experiences, parents should guide their kids through them.

i understand your philosophy... and if this is the way you bring up your children then kudos to you at being a fine parent.. most kids now a days have too much freedom.. sometimes it is just because parents need to work so much, single households etc.. so it just depends on how much you can be involved with your kids..

 

[Oscarum monstruoso]

"I hope she isnt naive enough to think dating a future marine has a future for her."
"its not a good idea for a 17 year old to be involved with a man going into the marines"
^ huge difference in these two comments

I think they both apply. Its not a good idea for a 17 year old to get involved with a marine recruit because theres no future in it.

i understand your philosophy... and if this is the way you bring up your children then kudos to you at being a fine parent.. most kids now a days have too much freedom.. sometimes it is just because parents need to work so much, single households etc.. so it just depends on how much you can be involved with your kids..

I admit that it is easy for me to make my comments as I have no kids myself. Its easy to be a perfectionist about someone else's life.

 

[SumoNinja]

didnt' know you didnt' have kids, that would explain a lot (meaning i understand more where you were coming from and why)

 

[Red Devil]

I think they both apply. Its not a good idea for a 17 year old to get involved with a marine recruit because theres no future in it.



I admit that it is easy for me to make my comments as I have no kids myself. Its easy to be a perfectionist about someone else's life.

i think it is easy to make comments.. because you are thinking what is Ideal... but the truth is until you have children you really do not know how you will be as a parent... children change you ..

 

[Oscarum monstruoso]

didnt' know you didnt' have kids, that would explain a lot (meaning i understand more where you were coming from and why)

Yeah I have a very one sided experience when it comes to raising kids.

i think it is easy to make comments.. because you are thinking what is Ideal... but the truth is until you have children you really do not know how you will be as a parent... children change you ..

Absolutely. Theyre a constant factor once they arrive, there is no way to prepare perfectly because its live in real time around the clock for around 20 years on average.

 

[Pandamania]

My 17 yr old is more mature than some of the posters on this thread. That said, why does every question lately on MFK, turn into something other than the subject, topic or question that was originally posted? This isn't about wether or not they should be bf and gf. I had asked if any body had some advice on what to say to her, to comfort. It really was not= "Should I have let these 2 ppl meet one another, spend time with a bunch of their friends, etc?" Thank you to all who gave positive responses and positive advice. I really do appreciate all of the helpful, understanding attitudes.

 

[Cholly]

Pandamania, just be there for her, it sounds like you are doing the right things. Letters are good, frequency is more important than length, and pictures are good. Just hearing your name at mail call is a superb morale booster. Homemade cookies are ALWAYS welcome, send enough to share.