Chat for single parents...this might not work lol

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chloe

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hey,

well im a single parent and just sometimes i feel like i need to rant and rave if its been a particularly hard day.
i spose in a way this could kinda be used as a support thread.
you know if sometimes u just need to chat with someone who is the same situation and who wont compare with themselves, well i spose that is what im trying to get at with this.

just thought it would b nice.

chloe
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Single parent here, as in only parent.
 
yea thats cool.
im an only parent. dad did a runner as soon as he had done the dna test and it came back as his lol work that out????
 
Wish mine had run. Besides finanically, keeping my son was the best decision I ever made :ROFL:.

I know some people have an issue with it, and there are alot of preconseptions that I'm unfound of, but 'eh screw them. I wouldn't change it for the world.
 
hhmmm, i found it extremely hard to begin with, but now i wouldnt change her for the world and glad i made the decision i did.
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The begining is tough, for me I had ended life has I knew it. When I first found out, I wept like a baby for two weeks. Once I made my decision I was numb for the rest of my pregnancy it was very sureal, and I think I was trying not to think "oh crap what was I thinking". When I held him in my arms for the first time, I was fairly certain I had made the right choice, and from there I became head over heels for my little buddy, and truely coould not wish nor want it any other way.

I seen pictures of your daughter, she's beautiful, how old is she?
 
yea i think i got a bit loast after i had her lol
everyone makes u think that as soon as the baby is in ur arms its an immiediate connection. i told them to take her away. because i didnt feel that bond i just thought that was it and something wasnt right. so we just had to work extra hard at forming the bond.
i think there was a lot of resentment about her, but everytime i spoke to a doctor about it they said nothing was wrong. well when she was 2 and a bit i thought i had a bit of a break down but no lol they finally said 'oh yea u got post natal depression' ....2 and a half years it took them to work that out, i could have killed them.
all that time that it could have been fixed and i wouldnt have missed out on that time with her. i dont even remember her as a baby.

but i think wer making up for lost time now. its amazingly hard because of her needs but thats just something we deal with, we just go out and have a good time.
its a bit awkward atm as shes started noticing other people have daddies, so she wonders where hers is....wow it was like having the sex talk with ur parents lol
how do u tell a kid that?
just said that "he didnt love mummy so he went away, but its ok because you have mummy and grandma and everyone else who loves you"

shes 4 and a nightmare lol but worth it...even though she outsmarts me most of the time lol

how olds ur little one?
 
I agree that people make you think you're supposed to love them from the moment of conception, but it wasn't that way for me either. When I was pregnant I was dealing with family telling me how hard of time they were having with me being pregnant, and a crazy ex. As I said I really tried not to think about him too much to avoid freaking out. I didn't go through postpartum though, I seen one go through a terrible time with it. Shame that no one could help you when you needed it, my friend thought she was a terrible person for it.

My son is 6, he was probably just turning 3 when he became daddy obsessed. Dad's picking up his friends in daycare and such. It was really hard not to say, daddy died in a fire while trying to save little children or something along those lines :) . He actually has made up stories about scuba diving accidents, or getting shot to his cousins. I told him everyone has a father but you don't have a "daddy" because thats someone thats around all the time. I would tell him some kids don't have any mommies and some kids don't have either, and then as you did I would redirect him to all the people he's lucky for in his life. I have 7 siblings, big family and some awesome friends as well. I'm a bit more in a pickle because dad would like to be in picture, and Aidan sees his father's father and is close to him, we just don;t talk about the link to him. I would like to be able to tell him something finite, I don't think it would devastate him if I could say your father didn't want to stick around, how did your daughter take it?
 
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