Dating advice?
- Thread starter Oompa Loompa
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Maybe if you said Volvo or Subi...lol, no dowt on the nova, surprised was picked up on, leaves me some hope.
Hello; Wow. A jump from a rented bicycle to a lambo. To be more clear, earlier I was asking if owning a car (a car in general) is still needed to attract the attention of women?
Also to be more clear I do not think all women are gold diggers. Some are for sure. It makes sense for a potential companion in a relationship to want to know the guy (in this particular discussion)( could be a gal with a different OP) is solvent.
Did I miss something? I thought the OP wanted a relationship not a short term pickup.
I also guess it is the same for women as men. There have been a number of women I have known who were so good looking that I overlooked a lot of serious flaws, at least short term. I imagine a young Brad Pitt could score with only a bicycle.
You should read more carefully. You simply stated could you get a girl with a bike I said you sure could, have you tried? I then stated as a second point a lambo is not required neither is a car. Heck if that was the case most of the population of Toronto would be single. The connection between the bike and a lambo was never made by me as it was simply stating two separate points. Now is a car needed to attract a women? Most definitely not, I'm sure a lot of high school sweethearts could vouch for that argument. I don't know where you draw your conclusions from but seems you like to argue with your own words
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You simply stated money and looks are the only importance. OP is a student asking for advice on dating and the advice you provided was become good looking or become rich. Think you can give some actual advice now?
I don't think he meant it was the ONLY way, but potentially the easiest.
As a woman who was once a girl I can confidently say that a car and ability to provide for yourself (house, job, money etc) goes a looong way when trying to pick up WOMEN for a long term relationship, girls are a little different, but most women want to know that their man is independent and not going to be reliant on her 24/7 for everything.
Women don't want a needy, bludging man who sits around the house watching daytime TV while she's at work. They also don't want to be the only one with a license and ability to drive to the supermarket. Just like most men don't want a needy, lazy, selfish, gold digging yadayadayada and so on...
Don't get me wrong, when I met my hubby he didn't have a license, or a car and he still lived with his parents at 19yrs old (in Tassie most kids move out between 16 and 18), the only thing he had going for him was a high paying job (and his looks and body
). It didn't stop me from wanting a relationship with him - however as the years passed and life got more difficult we needed a car, then when he lost his high paying job we needed money which meant he needed a career - not just a job, I weighed 32kgs at the time so working wasn't an option for me. Basically he needed a job and a car, or we were homeless.Anyways, what I'm getting at is these things might not be essential going through school, or even getting your first flat together, however sooner or later (in most parts of the world) in order to maintain your lives and live the way you'd like to, they will be needed. Do you think any girl wants to catch a bus home with two weeks worth of groceries?.. Would you catch a bus home with two weeks worth of groceries? Yeah, na, not unless the bus stop is right outside your front door..
Do you get what I'm saying? As a kid (under 21) these things aren't needed but desired, as an adult they're needed - unless you live in an area with lots of traffic congestion, a car helps a lot. As does money when you want to get a house together. Niceness and romance won't pay bills, or mortgages, or buy food...
Post Script: the first car my hubby got was a 1999 hyundai excel, and his career is in retail, not a high paying industry but its stable and he has the option to progress and earn more if need be. You don't need a flashy car and high paying job to survive, but money and wheels make living on your own much easier.
Post, Post Script: sorry about the wall of text.
my dude you a real life oopma loompa! haha. sorry had to.
its not that women are all gold diggers, its that they have an internal drive to have a stable life...as guys have that internal drive to find women. If you have a job, a car, a home and the cajones to live your life without anyone else's interjections you are miles ahead of most of your competition. Walks are great, I guess bike riding is cool? But after a while that girl wants to know she isn't going to be on the edge of her seat wondering where the money for groceries is going to come from next.
You read ANY dating/chick pick up advice from those people who actually sell this advice... and it all starts with don't pander to the girl's every little wish like a puppy, be a man and your own man, and take care of yourself. Its simple science...not to place women and men into such tightly-wound roles in life but ultimately that's how it works.
