I think you should let her know were you want the relationship to go, if you feel like you want to be full on then tell her that, she may run or come closer but you won't know till you find out , she may be wanting the same, she may not. Loves always a gamble and she's not always on your side.
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Just remember:
If you blow chunks and she comes back, she's yours. If you spew and she bolts, then it was never meant to be.
LOL
If you blow chunks and she comes back, she's yours. If you spew and she bolts, then it was never meant to be.
LOL
i think that you apologised and it is time to just be cool and wait... give both of you some room to get your thoughts together... if another time is right where you are together .. you can once again bring the subject up{lightly} and say that was my bad... and hope that she can let it go...etc... but after this you basically have to take a few steps back and see how much tolerance is within the relationship..after all if you both care alot .. theres miles of room for forgiveness... but if she is just merely a friend with no real attachment in her heart either this or something else would eventually break you up.... anyway.so hope this is all behind you now... and it will be smooth sailing from now on..and also try to take a course in anger management..because you know this could happen again... and you have a long life ahead of you... there will always be times when you will feel this way again.. and if there are good tips and a remedy to keep things in check it would have a great impact on your relationship for the better..
thanks for the well wishes and advice.
anger management...? well i don't blow up on people, this time round i guess i let my frustration show. i never yelled or anything, but i just came off in a way that just showed too much of my insecurities
i talked to my friend, the one who gave me the inside scoop. basically she indicated that it was over for the moment, but she hasn't closed the door. i feel sad that i kicked myself out the door. i want to get back into her good books again, and i guess right now i'm just giving myself and her space and just go about doing my own stuff. she's been more proactive than i have in trying to talk and stuff. she is always the first to message me and see if i'm around online at work (i usually hide in invisible mode just so i can talk to who i choose to...). and she also took the initiative to go out for some coffee on monday. i know i should only take those really as face value in that she's probably just trying to be friendly and stuff, so not gonna read more into any of that.
any ways, i've probably said too much again... heh... any ideas on how to proceed other than be cool, be yourself, keep a level head and be confident? i guess having that just puts all the other cards in place, yeah? i was thinking go get something for dinner tomorrow... what do you guys think?
anger management...? well i don't blow up on people, this time round i guess i let my frustration show. i never yelled or anything, but i just came off in a way that just showed too much of my insecurities
i talked to my friend, the one who gave me the inside scoop. basically she indicated that it was over for the moment, but she hasn't closed the door. i feel sad that i kicked myself out the door. i want to get back into her good books again, and i guess right now i'm just giving myself and her space and just go about doing my own stuff. she's been more proactive than i have in trying to talk and stuff. she is always the first to message me and see if i'm around online at work (i usually hide in invisible mode just so i can talk to who i choose to...). and she also took the initiative to go out for some coffee on monday. i know i should only take those really as face value in that she's probably just trying to be friendly and stuff, so not gonna read more into any of that.
any ways, i've probably said too much again... heh... any ideas on how to proceed other than be cool, be yourself, keep a level head and be confident? i guess having that just puts all the other cards in place, yeah? i was thinking go get something for dinner tomorrow... what do you guys think?
Noiceeee. it seems like she cares about you. Yeah, dinner would be great. Just make sure you pay for it! justkiddinggg. If that goes well take her out to go duck/goose feeding at your local park if youve never done that before. theres plenty of lakes stocked with ducks here in socal. You can also make sandwiches with her and have a picnic together as well. itll give you guys a lot of alone time so that you guys can get to know each other better. After all, thats what you want. right? hahahahaha. im happy for you man. looks like you found "the" one. love sure is a beautiful thing. best wishes.
heh... well i dont want to let my mind wander too fast at a million miles an hour, cuz i guess that's what led to this whole thing... i need to take things a day at a time, rather than think too far ahead...
If she's chasing you with messages right now, let her keep it up. She's nibbling at the bait again & if you keep that scenario going she will eventually bite. If you start pumping calls/messages at her before she initiates the contact, then she will back off again. Just keep being nice, calm & patient.
When she starts coming to you a bit more, dont get in a hurry. Wait for her to invite you places & if she doesn't invite you, dont act like it bothers you (you were busy anyway, right?). If you are patient & play your cards right, she will start to give you the signs. Little innocent touches, extended eye contact, etc. Keep the eye contact strong...no looking down or looking away first. Stay strong my brutha!!
When she starts coming to you a bit more, dont get in a hurry. Wait for her to invite you places & if she doesn't invite you, dont act like it bothers you (you were busy anyway, right?). If you are patient & play your cards right, she will start to give you the signs. Little innocent touches, extended eye contact, etc. Keep the eye contact strong...no looking down or looking away first. Stay strong my brutha!!
Women love confidence and when you sulk and call all the time that is a turn off. When I was young I was like you-a hopeless romantic-plus I didn't have a lot of confidence in my looks and what I had to offer. One day it dawned on me-don't force things have fun and if something special happens great-but if not enjoy being single and don't force things. Remember women can smell fear from a guy a mile away. And never let a women know how you completely feel until you she gives you that look, or constantly calls you-sometimes it is good to play hard to get.
I have been married for 13 years and a lady hit on me last Saturday-I didn't even really know who she was-why did she hit on me? Cause I ignored her and did my own thing-women love a guy who has enough confidence in himself to not need to be around a girl 24/7. Needless to say nothing happened-I let her down easy-but I have a feeling this won't be the last time she hits on me.
I have been married for 13 years and a lady hit on me last Saturday-I didn't even really know who she was-why did she hit on me? Cause I ignored her and did my own thing-women love a guy who has enough confidence in himself to not need to be around a girl 24/7. Needless to say nothing happened-I let her down easy-but I have a feeling this won't be the last time she hits on me.
Just remember:
If you blow chunks and she comes back, she's yours. If you spew and she bolts, then it was never meant to be.
LOL
I threw up on a girl in college-she left to clean up. My buddies were like "Art she ain't coming back" I bet them $50 and guess what she came back! LOL!
If you blow chunks and she comes back, she's yours. If you spew and she bolts, then it was never meant to be.
LOL
I threw up on a girl in college-she left to clean up. My buddies were like "Art she ain't coming back" I bet them $50 and guess what she came back! LOL!
