Yeah my original male (the one in my profile pic) he was a mean fish but liked to be pet as well. But if you stopped petting him expect to be bit lol. His 2 daughters are drastically different in personality. The big girl is very shy towards ppl but her lil sis is very interactive and loves to dance infront of the glass come feeding time. The big girl looks allot like her father but acts totally different.Personality is great but I also want a fish that's pretty or unique and interesting to look at. Most all of the CA/SA cichlids I've kept have a lot of personality but I think a lot of people equate personality with aggression. I have a small group of feisty honduran redpoints which I think are hilarious in the way they're always posturing and bickering but they never do any real damage to each other. Then again they're 2-3 inch fish in a 200 gallon tank which helps.