COuld there also be a size difference fish to fish? I have an upside down cat in my tank, and this is the first I've ever heard that they like to be in groups. My girlfriend has been keeping fish for the past 15 years, and her mom has been keeping fish for around thirty. They both swear to me that they have both had upside down cats hit the 6.5-7 inch mark. I showed her pic of the "giant" upside down cat, and she said thats not what she had, they were normal upside down cats that she bought from wal mart.
It is very highly likely that your family has kept Synodontis euptera - the most common and cheapest of larger synos available worldwide in the trade. These fish reach a foot.