My thoughts, ponderings, and rants from the last 5 years are all 100% in line with what you're believing Rob.
I'll make a long story short. My rays patterns go to hell when they hit my water. Ususally they are from the river (fresh imports), but occasionally I get rays from hobbyists. The guy I used to get rays from had similar water to mine. He suffered crazy losses going from the river to his water. He switched to RO. No more crazy losses. I pay through the teeth for nice rays that looked nice there. Toss them in my liquid rock and it's all down hill from there. When I get rays from hobbyists with water that's actually capable of crashing (PH) same thing, they go to hell. When I get them from hobbyists with harder water there's less change. The raykeepers say water doesn't matter, only consistancy. I disagree.
I bought an RO unit and planned to start slowly mixing tap and RO, but alas, the problem of the room needed to mix..... 2 seperate vats, for up to 300 gallons a day usage.
I do know that my water is mineraltary army tank. PH down works for hours, then bounces right back. PH can't even be accurately tested with kits. I had to buy a meter and swore that 8.4 was burned into it until I do a water change, then if I put the probe into incoming water on a tank that hasn't had a WC in a while it might drop a tenth or 2, but bounces right back up.
Imagine watching $1K rays turn into $300 rays right before your eyes. I'd give anything to solve this problem, but am torn between my own personal beliefs and that of much more experienced raykeepers, and am scared to death to start messing with altering the water in fear of the rays health. Simply too much invested, but yet pattern degregation drives the price down, so it really is a lose lose situation for me, and another losing part is the stress. I'm a little young to be on blood pressure meds cause I've got a friggin ongoing problem I'm scared to do anything about, that's doing nothing but depreciating my stock.
Hows the water in Africa? My African fish seem just fine, but then again they aren't rays, so it's much harder to see how the patterns are, but I've always had crazy good luck with Odoe, and my MBU is gorgeous. Tor also seemed to thrive. The Brycon here have grown like nothing I've ever seen...... Turbid water fish? The Dorado do seem to grow pretty quick too.....
Toss diet in there as another variable and....... This guy has a headache.

But, if it's any corelation, I don't feed pellets. Mostly Talapia and shrimp, occasionally homemade gel food supplemented with flake food and pellets. Patterns do seem better then when I was feeding primarely smelt....