how should a girl deal with sleazy men?
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Neervana;3342657; said:see that's exactly why i didn't let him follow me homedon't want my SH having bad feeders for dinner
Lol
yeah second thoughts would probably give them the runs...
Passing on some stuff I've heard from a self-defense instructor:
Don't be afraid to be loud and make a scene if a guy is bugging you. Usually that will deter him. Don't just say "Leave me alone!", also say "I don't know you!". People in a crowd will often assume a man and woman yelling at one another are a couple and not want to get involved, but are more likely to interfere if they realize he is a stranger to you.
Also have your cell phone handy and don't hesitate to call the police if he won't quit. The simple act of calling them will often send a creep running.
Violence should be a last resort, but if he just won't leave you alone, use it. Don't try to fight him, try to hurt him and then run away. Aim for sensitive areas- instep, groin, eyes, nose. You don't need to buy a knife or gun; if you're not comfortable using whatever weapon you buy it's more likely to be a liability than an asset. Do use the "weapons" you have on you- fingernails, keys, teeth if necessary.
I hope that helps! I'm a guy, and average-looking, but even I get pursued by persistent guys now and again. Some of them are harmless and just don't know when to quit, but others are real creeps. One thing I've found is good for turning away the first is to not be quiet or smile when saying "No", they may take it as coyness. There's no need to be rude when someone's just asking, but do be firm and serious.
Don't be afraid to be loud and make a scene if a guy is bugging you. Usually that will deter him. Don't just say "Leave me alone!", also say "I don't know you!". People in a crowd will often assume a man and woman yelling at one another are a couple and not want to get involved, but are more likely to interfere if they realize he is a stranger to you.
Also have your cell phone handy and don't hesitate to call the police if he won't quit. The simple act of calling them will often send a creep running.
Violence should be a last resort, but if he just won't leave you alone, use it. Don't try to fight him, try to hurt him and then run away. Aim for sensitive areas- instep, groin, eyes, nose. You don't need to buy a knife or gun; if you're not comfortable using whatever weapon you buy it's more likely to be a liability than an asset. Do use the "weapons" you have on you- fingernails, keys, teeth if necessary.
I hope that helps! I'm a guy, and average-looking, but even I get pursued by persistent guys now and again. Some of them are harmless and just don't know when to quit, but others are real creeps. One thing I've found is good for turning away the first is to not be quiet or smile when saying "No", they may take it as coyness. There's no need to be rude when someone's just asking, but do be firm and serious.
You are very pretty but for real just stay calm and kill it with kindness. Talk to him but be blunt that ur not interested. Keep a pocket knife on you. If somebpdy follows you after you get off the train just do what you did this time, walk to the police station.
OK I'm not going to read all the posts because I'm sure no one has said this.
Are you 100% sure he was following you or just heading in the same way, this has happened to me in school. Just on my merry way when some girl turned around and asked me why I was following her. Some of my friends also say they think guys are following them all the time, so maybe it is just in your head. Asking you for your number was probably his last resort and when that failed he was just going to go home to where ever he lives and it was probably in the same basic direction as your house.
Are you 100% sure he was following you or just heading in the same way, this has happened to me in school. Just on my merry way when some girl turned around and asked me why I was following her. Some of my friends also say they think guys are following them all the time, so maybe it is just in your head. Asking you for your number was probably his last resort and when that failed he was just going to go home to where ever he lives and it was probably in the same basic direction as your house.
ozz465;3342682; said:
oh god....dont tempt me to get a tazer...lol if they were legal ud find half naked men evrywhere dazed and confused
sorry to hear that girl, some guys can be real pricks. here's my advice:
- if youre not interested, be a b****h and direct. that will take care of most guys. dont smile and try to be cute about it, that will only make it worse
- if that dont work, try raising your voice and/or making a scene. that will ward off all but the psychos
- violence. last resort for those psychos that arent just looking to "talk". it may be illegal to carry a weapon on you, but id rather face the legal consequences of that than possibly getting hurt or even killed by some psychopath
- if youre not interested, be a b****h and direct. that will take care of most guys. dont smile and try to be cute about it, that will only make it worse
- if that dont work, try raising your voice and/or making a scene. that will ward off all but the psychos
- violence. last resort for those psychos that arent just looking to "talk". it may be illegal to carry a weapon on you, but id rather face the legal consequences of that than possibly getting hurt or even killed by some psychopath
lol my partner already nearly has a heart attack everytime i go out on my own so things didnt go so well when i got home yesterday haha uhm tazers aren't allowed here and i wouldnt know where to get one either. i sort of went cold when that guy continued following me but he really didn't get the hint!
uhm tazers aren't allowed here and i wouldnt know where to get one either. i sort of went cold when that guy continued following me but he really didn't get the hint!