is there a cure or pessimism? (vent/help)

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i know what your going through.......just last year i was in the same boat....havin a hard time, losing sleep, and thinking about life......what i did was realized my problem and had to stop it.......my problem was i cared too much about what people thought about me......i thought i always had to be the best and perfect (and with a brother with honors and a entire family of jocks it was hard)........so i just quit letting it get to me.......that's why i don't play school sports anymore(only intramural)......way too much competition at an all guys prep school where sports are everything.....sure a lot of people disagree with what i do but that's how i like life........plus that's what got me hooked on fishkeeping....but that's what i did...........

So all I can help you wit Del is try and identify the problem and eliminate it........hope everything turns out for the best and know everyone is here for you at MFK
 
How old are you Del? Some of the things I have been through and my family I am lucky to still be here I count every day as a blessing. There is so much to life so much to do you are a young man. Save up go out see the world. You have a head start over a lot of people. You have a brain so use it as for saying” I use to wish I was dead just to end all the suffering and confusion” what is you suffering? My father has lost his eye site his passion in life was breeding and showing Tetras and chess do that blind. You could save up and go and visit some great place the grt. barrier reef the Amazon I had my best friend die at 21 that was the worst funeral I have ever been to. This is coming from a rambling dyslexic English idiot please please if you feel this bad go and see a consoler not a quack you just need to talk to some one and get out more. My life gets better as I get older I have so much now wife son the house etc etc trust me as my mum used to say to me “It’s all part of life rich tapestry”
 
Hi Del,

As you can see, you're not as alone as you think you are. Many others have experienced similar streches during their lives and made it thru, reaching happiness and living a meaningful life. Furthermore, the MFK community is a supportive group which doesn't let you down :thumbsup: One might say "well this is the internet, it's all electronic". Not correct: We're all people, flesh & blood. What you get here are real-life advice. Feel free to PM any of us for more "one on one" time and personalized advice, if you do not feel like revealing your life in the Lounge.

Set yourself goals, try to reach them. When you're close to reaching them, set them higher. That always helped me.

HarleyK
 
Hey man, Im in the exact same spot you are right now. From what I remember your about my age too (17?). I mean, stuff falls apart, just doesnt work out, whatever it may be.

I mean, for me, it kinda goes like this-
Job sucks
Girlfriend has no idea what she wants
Parents giving crap about everything
No idea where Im going to college

And all that stuff. It really wears you done and makes me feel exactly like your describing. Well, I found out just take it one problem at a time, it seems much smaller that way. I mean, Im getting it all figured out, a little less stressful as each day passes. Ones things get moving towards a good side it gets a lot easier.

Just be happy with the things your doing, dont look back at past decisions wondering if you made the right choice. I've learned regret only slows you down and doesnt get you anywhere. Hope this helps you some, it took me several weeks to get back up after it all crashed on me at once.
 
If you are serious, then here is a random thought:

Go see a Psychologist. The field exists for a reason. Talk to your family, no need to fight this alone. It's sad to read you feel this way, but I wish you luck, and as cliche as it sounds, you need to help yourself if you want to get better.
 
I know how you feel too been there.

I mean when you think about it whats the difference between a person on the stationary bike in thier apartment and a hamster in a wheel?An expensive watch?

Some therapy might help but best case scenario(and I know this sounds shallow) is youll learn the worst thing a person can do,ESPECIALLY an intelligent person can do is spend time on introspection.Too much thinking can eat you alive.Be busy be exausted when you go to bed it can be that simple.


Or you can take the other route phamaceuticals,according to tv,and print ads my health teacher was wrong drugs are the answer.
 
mbhw said:
If you are serious, then here is a random thought:

Go see a Psychologist. The field exists for a reason. Talk to your family, no need to fight this alone. It's sad to read you feel this way, but I wish you luck, and as cliche as it sounds, you need to help yourself if you want to get better.
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I don't agree......... everyone i know who goes to a shrink ends up dependent upon them..... for meds and so on....... I'm sure Del will see his way through this....... the fact that he can talk about it is good....... life is really as bad as you make it out to be..... never forget theres always someone who has it worst.......

Del...... take responsibility for your anguish........ regards if its caused by things out of your control.......... once you take responsibility for your life........ you stop being a victim......... then you can truly be in control of your life....... be grateful for your health....... your fish....... the fact that you have internet access....... there's so much to be grateful for...... yet most the time we focus on the negatives......... think about it........
 
i know what you mean man. Smoetimes i feel like this for a while too. I usualy just let it pass. Dont worry it will. But wait i hait it when people tell me that while i feel depressed. Sometimes i just feeel mad for no reason too like to break things and tear stuff up when that hapens but the anger is usualy short lived. Well try to cheer up and good luck.
 
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