oh oh even better news!! Well i took away the divider today and there was alot of chasing and nipping. The female is also sporting some strips! First time for that. The female is pretty beat though, she doesnt come up off the bottom of the tank except for air and to eat so I was thinking i was going to divide them for the night just so she can rest but when I went to there was a bubble nest so i decided it would be best to just leave them alone.