Life thoughts

[Skittle]

Shrimp hidden in his car? I have to give you a lot of respect for having to see him every day and not being arrested for assault yet. My soon to be ex wife keeps her new douchbag away from me on purpose cause she knows it'll end up with me having a broken hand that matches the damage to his face

This. Im not sure i culd see him evryday and not do somthin. However good for you not just lashin out at him rite when you saw him. Itll get you burned. Just confront the dude, and feel out the sitution. See what he desirves


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[SumoNinja]

I would never wanna fight someone for sleeping with my girl or wife. not even worth it.

for her to willingly cheat on me, they can have eachother imo but i'm not putting myself in a situation where i'd get thrown in a cell for assault or attempted murder. she ruined your life, why make it worse??

I'd just move on and be thankful I found out what kind of a person she is.

 

[Miguel]

. she ruined your life, why make it worse??

I'd just move on and be thankful I found out what kind of a person she is.

Now this is exactly the rationale I found faulty and that people increasingly belive in.

She ruined his life? Are lifes so worthless, per se, that the act of a third person ( a wife, husband, etc ) "ruins it"? Are we so dependent on one another that give the other persons the right, the possibility of ruining one's life?

( i can understand this rationale from a woman of my grnamother's generation, when they left everything to dedicate themselves to a man, no schooling, aboslutely no other choices in life and then to be dumped )

But in this time and age???

Are we so worthless that we give a counterpart the right to ruin one's life??

To have one's life ruined ist to loose a child. Is to do something stupid and end up paying for it.

To have someone, who may not deserve ( although blame allways lies on both sides ) you cheat you and to empower such person to be ale to "ruin your life "??

A society full of people who feel sorry for themselves, that is what we have.

 

[SumoNinja]

calm down killer, I meant she ruined their life, together. as in, their marriage

 

[SumoNinja]

and if my wife cheated on me, it would ruin my life

it would mean my five kids will be split, she'd move to live with her family in Minnesota

I can remarry, move on, have other kids or not, but i'd be without some of my kids. give me all the money in the world and it won't fill that void

yes, I would feel very sorry for myself and for anyone who would go thru that. go fly a kite if you look down on that

 

[Miguel]

and if my wife cheated on me, it would ruin my life

it would mean my five kids will be split, she'd move to live with her family in Minnesota

I can remarry, move on, have other kids or not, but i'd be without some of my kids. give me all the money in the world and it won't fill that void

yes, I would feel very sorry for myself and for anyone who would go thru that. go fly a kite if you look down on that

I do not know how to fly a kite.

But again, your rationale continues to be flawed, Ninja ( Panda Ninja ).

Kids should never be mixed in this discussion. ( if one looses one's kids on account of a situation such as the one we are conversing about, then I can accept the "life ruin" theory for discussion's sake ). You, however, mentioned life ruined in relation to a failed, cheated on, relationship ( no one was talking kids...).

In this day and age, people are so weak ( men and women ) that they really need to cling to someone else and they end up feeling entitled to such person, as if it was their property.

it no longer is an issue of love, of feeling welll together, but of property. It gets transformed into a contract and people really feel left down, feel cheated, because the counter party opted out, actually preferring to stay together even without love, but based on such "contract".


what a sorry state of affairs. what a poor way to face life.

 

[Bigajb1]

Your girlfriend/wife cheated on you with someone you work with is what I'm guessing is happening?

If so:

Screw her, once a cheater always a cheater. You have a right to be mad at this kid but as you say you're finally in a higher position at work, keep working up that ladder and you'll eventually be so high that kid won't even matter.

As Miguel said, you don't need another person to be happy. Your relationship will never be the same and you'll never see your significant other the same way again. Cheating, in my book, is one of the worst things you can do to another person (except murder, rape etc.) and you have nobody to blame but her and her alone. He wasn't in a relationship, sure it's not morally right, but she was the one that broke your trust not him.


Just my 2 cents.




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[pjsammut]

and if my wife cheated on me, it would ruin my life

it would mean my five kids will be split, she'd move to live with her family in Minnesota

I can remarry, move on, have other kids or not, but i'd be without some of my kids. give me all the money in the world and it won't fill that void

yes, I would feel very sorry for myself and for anyone who would go thru that. go fly a kite if you look down on that

+ 1 bro. I completely agree with you.
For those who say its weak to have emotions and feelings for someone should spend less time in the gym to prove how tough they are. I am married and love my wife with all my heart, if anyone considers that a weakness then they are in a lonely place. i dont consider myself entitled or her my posession, we are each others through years of life experience and I am no less a man or weak for committing to those emotions. If she cheated or left then figuratively yes my life woulf be in ruins, but as you say we pick ourselves up and soldier on.
Denying that vulnerability to be hurt is the true weakness.

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[Bigajb1]

+ 1 bro. I completely agree with you.
For those who say its weak to have emotions and feelings for someone should spend less time in the gym to prove how tough they are. I am married and love my wife with all my heart, if anyone considers that a weakness then they are in a lonely place. i dont consider myself entitled or her my posession, we are each others through years of life experience and I am no less a man or weak for committing to those emotions. If she cheated or left then figuratively yes my life woulf be in ruins, but as you say we pick ourselves up and soldier on.
Denying that vulnerability to be hurt is the true weakness.

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You would be sad and depressed for along time because you'd lose someone very dear to you. Would your life be ruined? No. You'd go out there and meet new people and eventually be happy again. It could take some time, but your life would not be ruined.


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[krichardson]

Not to be taking sides or anything but as a family man I think I'm more inclined to agree with Sumo...Remove children from the situation and Miguel's views are easier to consider.