Maybe I'm overthinking this...

[sidneymysnake]

Keep your head up, I'm sure things will get better. If it was me I would explain it to him, lay it down and tell him it's now or never to change. I hate the mind game of "you make me feel like a dick". I would tell him straight up that he shouldn't act like one then. It sounds like you have given him plenty of opportunities to change and he's not willing to do it for you. I personally would call it quits - but I don't know the entire situation. I hope it works out for you

 

[misstish]

sidney, i've given him WAAYY to many chances to change.
I even wrote a list telling him because it seems like telling him to his face
it goes in one ear and out the other.
Its a very long story, seeing as we have been together 2 years.
I'm really to the point of calling it quits. Its pretty bad when my male
bestfriend treats me alot better then he does, and he is always there
when I need something. (I asked him to take me to the store but
he was at a wedding and drinking, so I told him not to worry about it. lol)

thanks guys/gals. the advice is much needed.

 

[syddakyd]

Sleeps till 3 or 4? I hope he works nights cuz if not youve picked yourself a real winner. Blame him for using drugs and see if he gets pissed off lol.

 

[haynchinook334]

sidney, i've given him WAAYY to many chances to change.
I even wrote a list telling him because it seems like telling him to his face
it goes in one ear and out the other.
Its a very long story, seeing as we have been together 2 years.
I'm really to the point of calling it quits. Its pretty bad when my male
bestfriend treats me alot better then he does, and he is always there
when I need something. (I asked him to take me to the store but
he was at a wedding and drinking, so I told him not to worry about it. lol)

Lose the Zero and get with a Hero......

 

[balton777]

thanks for the advice.
this "friend" is actually my fiancee. We've been having problems since we first broke up and got back together. Decided to give him a second chance but I'm back in the same boat, this isn't the first time he has done this to me.

He tries to switch it around and put it on me. Said I made him feel like a dick..
WELL JEEEE, maybe you shouldn't be one.
I've walked to work in 104 degree weather because he didn't feel like getting out
and taking me. Needless to say, work sent me home because I had a heat stroke.

my bestfriend treated me like crap this whole week, so me and her are no longer
friends, I've got to much in my life going wrong..
Hoping for a break somewhere soon. lol

It won't work in the long run, don't marry this guy. He doesn't give a crap about you from what everything you're saying.

Lol I'm not hitting on you but if I lived near you, I'd be happy to take a trip to the lfs together. Always cool to have another fish buddy.

 

[Neervana]

sidney, i've given him WAAYY to many chances to change.
I even wrote a list telling him because it seems like telling him to his face
it goes in one ear and out the other.
Its a very long story, seeing as we have been together 2 years.
I'm really to the point of calling it quits. Its pretty bad when my male
bestfriend treats me alot better then he does, and he is always there
when I need something. (I asked him to take me to the store but
he was at a wedding and drinking, so I told him not to worry about it. lol)

thanks guys/gals. the advice is much needed.

lol never ever give a guy an inch because if you do, he will take a mile!!!

do not make him a priority. be your own happy personality, and put him out of the picture for a while. he will notice sooner or later.

then when he asks make out as if nothing is wrong. he will soon be the one begging you. then he will ask you if you wanna do anything. just be like no im good.

he will start wondering whats going on

dont even try to make a list again, that just shows your desperate! which a woman should never be.... let him suffer for a while then dump his sorry ass.

find someone better who will want to do things with you and enjoy it. who you don't need to ask more than once.

 

[Metalgearliquid2]

dump him.... keep the ring..... sell it..... buy fish supplies.... enjoy life

 

[balton777]

Keep your head up, I'm sure things will get better. If it was me I would explain it to him, lay it down and tell him it's now or never to change. I hate the mind game of "you make me feel like a dick". I would tell him straight up that he shouldn't act like one then. It sounds like you have given him plenty of opportunities to change and he's not willing to do it for you. I personally would call it quits - but I don't know the entire situation. I hope it works out for you

People don't change, we are who we are. You either have to accept that person as they are or not. Time to call it quits.

 

[misstish]

dump him.... keep the ring..... sell it..... buy fish supplies.... enjoy life

the ring? BAHAHAHA! You guys would love the story behind the "ring"


I made a list because he asked for it; I normally never do that but I
was tired of being treated like ****. I've said to myself for the past 6
months I don't think I could marry him. We fight because we don't
see each other enough, we fight when we are with each other to
much. We always do everything he wants to do, never what I want.
I drop money I don't even have on him and I have to beg for stuff.
Like snake food or something when I run low on money because
of my bills. So I don't even know how I talked him into getting me
this 29gal, but he thinks I'm going to pay him back and I'm not.
I've never made him pay me back on anything I've every gotten him.
So why should I have to do it?
He hates my snakes, I told him he is going to get over it or he
can find his way right back out the door he came in.
My snakes and fish come before ANY man in my life. Its all I have,
besides my car and xbox360. lol
To be honest, I'm to the point of dating my male bestfriend.
Atleast with him, everything is fun and I get treated a million
times better. He isn't the best looking guy but he is a total
sweetheart and knows more about me then my own "fiancee" does.
Thats pretty sad. He knows how to make me feel better while when
my "fiancee" tries to, he just seems to annoy me more. lol

Yeah; I think its best I lose this dude. But its hard, its gonna take time.
I do love him but I'm tired of being treated like gum on the bottom
of someones shoe... or shall I say "the carp trying to get into the
great lakes in Michigan"

balton: haha lets do it!! I have like NO fish buddies where I live.
it sucks, so when my friends ask what I've been up to and I start
talking about my tank ideas or anything, they look at me like
I'm on crack and walk away. lol

 

[balton777]

balton: haha lets do it!! I have like NO fish buddies where I live.
it sucks, so when my friends ask what I've been up to and I start
talking about my tank ideas or anything, they look at me like
I'm on crack and walk away. lol

hahah for the most part I know how you feel but I have one good friend who I can talk fish with. The rest of the time I'm on MFK to get my fix.