More of a controlling relationship question.

[TheNewSeverum]

W Warborg I live with her, I see her every single day. I spend a lot of time with her. You misunderstood what I meant. I'm saying if I want to go out with my friends and I'm out until 2am I shouldn't be talked to like I'm a teenager. If I want to go on vacation with the guys and I'm given a hard time thats an issue. I cant go to certain restaurants because they make her uncomfortable? Censoring what I see female wise because I'm a kid? No. I dont think so.

K krichardson I said if things dont change I'm out.

 

[skjl47]

I live with her

if I want to go out with my friends and I'm out until 2am I shouldn't be talked to like I'm a teenager.

I want to go on vacation with the guys and I'm given a hard time thats an issue.

I cant go to certain restaurants because they make her uncomfortable?

Hello; Perhaps you should quit posting in this thread under the when in a hole stop digging theory.
While living with someone is not being married, it is the next closest thing. So these three examples you posted absolutely hurt your case. If I were to commit with someone to the point of living with them I would want to know why they were out to the wee hours. I would not be all that happy about my live-in partner going on vacation with someone else. The restaurant thing sounds like you want her to be uncomfortable so you get what you want.
These sorts of things are what serious relationships deal with by compromise. I am beginning to have much more sympathy for the young lady.

 

[TheNewSeverum]

If I were to commit with someone to the point of living with them I would want to know why they were out to the wee hours.

You know exactly where I am, you are not my mother. So whats the issue?

I would not be all that happy about my live-in partner going on vacation with someone else.

Someone else, happening to be men, not women. You know where I am and I text you all the time. So whats the issue?

The restaurant thing sounds like you want her to be uncomfortable so you get what you want

It's not a matter of making someone feel uncomfortable. I've compromised quite a bit in this relationship. With all her stupid rather controlling things she pulls, a lot of people dont get why I am still with her. But hey, like I said, we discussed it and we will see how it plays out.

This is also getting off topic. This is more or less in regards to the issue she started a fight over me taking a day off. Let the original point of the post set in.

 

[skjl47]

Hello; Since you asked for opinions on an open forum thread, it seems you are getting them. At first the case that the girlfriend was at fault seemed reasonable. Now, to me anyway, not so much.
I get the sort of fellow you are. Did you actually expect everyone to go along with the scenario that you happen to like? I get that judgments made from the information in a few posts do not take into account an entire personality, but so far you are not making a good case for yourself.

You take off work to do chores you did not get around to on a regular day off. I would not want you working for me. You live with a person but do not expect to be accountable to them?

Hey, it's your life so do whatever you want. Maybe do not put it out on a forum??

 

[Warborg]

W Warborg I live with her, I see her every single day. I spend a lot of time with her. You misunderstood what I meant. I'm saying if I want to go out with my friends and I'm out until 2am I shouldn't be talked to like I'm a teenager. If I want to go on vacation with the guys and I'm given a hard time thats an issue. I cant go to certain restaurants because they make her uncomfortable? Censoring what I see female wise because I'm a kid? No. I dont think so.

Yea, I did not know you were living with her. I missed that.

 

[jaws7777]

"if I want to go out with my friends and I'm out until 2am I shouldn't be talked to like I'm a teenager. If I want to go on vacation with the guys and I'm given a hard time thats an issue"

That plus u live with her ?

Lmaooooooo thats what living with someone is like. Like slj47 said its not marriage but its pretty damn close.
Plus it doesnt matter if shes 20 or 40 having issues with you staying out all night or going away with the guys is par for the course.

 

[jaws7777]

You live with a person but do not expect to be accountable to them?

Very important aspect of a relationship. People do not like to admit it but yes we are accountable to our wives/girlfriends ect ect.

 

[TheNewSeverum]

You take off work to do chores you did not get around to on a regular day off. I would not want you working for me. You live with a person but do not expect to be accountable to them?

I had both sick time and PTO available so that doesnt matter. What I am saying is, I do not understand as to why me taking a day off to wrap my stuff up was a big deal instead of taking a day off that she was off too. Yes, I wanted other peoples opinions, but people seem to be looking at this from another point.

 

[celebrist]

This is starting to sound more and more like a straw on a camel's back

 

[skjl47]

Yes, I wanted other peoples opinions, but people seem to be looking at this from another point.

Hello; I understood what your point of view is. That you apparently can not see the other points of view may be telling.
Taking off work for trivial reasons may be common enough and may be accepted in some circles. It is however from a "another" point of view a dishonest tactic. Days off can put an employer or a company in a bind for many reasons. Jobs may not get done on time. Someone else may have to take up the slack. I get that my view may be a minority. At any rate my view is you are wrong when taking a day off if for a trivial reason.

After considering your story from the posts so far my view point is leaning with more sympathy for the girlfriend. I am not so sure she is the immature one.

"people seem to be looking at this from another point" Yes it is very inconvenient. Had the same sort of issue at a car dealership Friday. I offered an amount but the sales manager had another point of view. Said it was not enough money. I kept my money and he still has the car.