Thanks for the feedback on the grammodes; Ive read they are either like you stated skittish or just flat out psycho. My luck Id get one I never saw so I think I will forgo them even though they do look pretty awesome.
I have decided that my A.siquia Rio Tempisque male will be getting one of the tanks. He is becoming a real dick to my Syn and Id like to give him his own space as he is actually quite an impressive fish. I will probably order a female from Rapps and get her established prior to moving him in. I will most likely do some largeish barbs for dithers.
Now for the remaining 40G Im not sure what Ill do....someone on another forum suggested a female Festae. I have also thought of an EBJD or just a nicer bred regular JD. Still thinking of a solo fish with personality.