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Thanks Edox. This was a bolt-up job. I didn’t do any welding or much painting. Lots of grinding, filing, polish, and I had to paint one hoop.
33 years ago I took Judy to our Office lunch party, and the rest is history.
(Wow! Those Elton John glasses! I think I still have them somewhere.)
(Wow! Those Elton John glasses! I think I still have them somewhere.)
Our new resin driveway was started on Monday. They just finished it today. Originally I was going to design the centre pattern myself, with a fish related theme, but the wife growled at me! Before and after pics below.
I'm afraid I can't take any praise for it Tom. When I said, "they just finished it today", I was referring to the workmen, not me, lol.
Hello; Had an unusual situation crop up recently. Some background. I married the first time in 1966 and was divorced the first time in 1979. An old and common story, the first wife found a new boyfriend. After a few weeks I adjusted and moved on to other girlfriends and eventually a second marriage which did not last long.
Fast forward to last summer. I answered the phone to hear the long divorced first ex-wife on the line. She had essentially outlived her second husband who recently passed away after a few decades. She wanted me to come up for a visit. Saying she was now alone. I declined to do so. At the time I could only think of the poor way things had ended so many decades ago. So, i never called back nor did I visit.
This past Wednesday i got another phone call from a person asking if I knew her. It was the woman who is executor of her estate. The first wife is dead. Thing is she killed herself a few weeks ago. Now it has crossed my mind the phone call and request for a visit last summer may have been a call for help. Nothing in the conversation at the time suggested a problem or perhaps I just failed to notice.
Not sure what to make of this. 1979 is 44 years ago. I moved on from that episode in my life long ago. We had no children together and had not seen each other for decades. I had figured that relationship done and dusted for a long time. I was largely beyond any ill feelings and mostly did not want to dredge up that whole episode again. Guess i am trying to figure out two things. One is did i miss a call for help? The other is even if i had thought of it as a call for help, I am not sure I would have wanted to be involved. That she took her own life is troubling and i did not wish her harm even back in the day. I just wanted away from a bad episode back then and had no desire to open up old wounds.
Fast forward to last summer. I answered the phone to hear the long divorced first ex-wife on the line. She had essentially outlived her second husband who recently passed away after a few decades. She wanted me to come up for a visit. Saying she was now alone. I declined to do so. At the time I could only think of the poor way things had ended so many decades ago. So, i never called back nor did I visit.
This past Wednesday i got another phone call from a person asking if I knew her. It was the woman who is executor of her estate. The first wife is dead. Thing is she killed herself a few weeks ago. Now it has crossed my mind the phone call and request for a visit last summer may have been a call for help. Nothing in the conversation at the time suggested a problem or perhaps I just failed to notice.
Not sure what to make of this. 1979 is 44 years ago. I moved on from that episode in my life long ago. We had no children together and had not seen each other for decades. I had figured that relationship done and dusted for a long time. I was largely beyond any ill feelings and mostly did not want to dredge up that whole episode again. Guess i am trying to figure out two things. One is did i miss a call for help? The other is even if i had thought of it as a call for help, I am not sure I would have wanted to be involved. That she took her own life is troubling and i did not wish her harm even back in the day. I just wanted away from a bad episode back then and had no desire to open up old wounds.
This is a tragic story Jeff. The fact that you've took time out to post details on here suggests to me that the events of last year are weighing on your mind. You may even feel some tiny level of guilt, or regret, or remorse right now.
But 44 years is a hell of a long time. You owed her absolutely nothing, especially after the way your marriage ended. You didn't have children together, you had no ties to this woman at all. I hope you don't feel too disheartened by it all, because you have no need to imo.
Stay strong.
Hello; Thanks. You pegged the dilemma. On the one hand i understand she left me and the relationship was done long ago. On the other she was once an important person in my life. I do not think I feel guilty exactly but do wonder if a small gesture on my part might have made a difference. I will work it out. This is the sort of thing that makes me envy drinkers. My father would have simply gotten drunk.
