yep its female, just got it recently, its sick with hex atm, i got her sick. so it could explain part of my problem with the shyness, both male and female were sick, the male was worse off, but looks like his recovery is faster, he's more of a fighter than the female, and she is picky with food.. its getting frustrating, but i'm persevering. Sorry no pics atm, waiting for her to improve. fingers crossed, good luck with yours do you have a pic? Is it one you got off LHA?? If its the one im thinking of, its nice fish man!