The new addition is most definately a male. And your female looks great! Leave them together, the male is showing the female that he is strong and deserves to be a father. It is good that he is larger, otherwise it is likely they wouldn't breed. Do some cool water changes, condition them with some live foods (not feeders, live bloodworms and insects always worked for me), provide a smooth rock angled at 45 degrees and before you know it you will have eggs.
Good luck!
The only problem is that she layed eggs before i got him, she layed them in a flower pot and i decided to get her a mate. After i introduced him about 2 weeks after she ate the eggs, she just hid behind the filter without a tail and wouldnt eat. I think i introduced him too early and she is not ready to bread yet. Is this correct?
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