Spanking Linked to Mental Illness, Says Study
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Definately do NOT condone this. This guy is an idiot right off the bat, why would you discipline a kid for not catching a ball?? I would guess the right thing to do is to encourage the kid. Another thing, if what he did is a felony, my parents would never see the light of day ever again, but I wouldnt change one thing about my childhood. EVERYDAY I see how how kids are and I thank god my parents disciplined me the way they did. I would have also loved to have it out with the nosy neighbor.
Definately do NOT condone this. This guy is an idiot right off the bat, why would you discipline a kid for not catching a ball?? I would guess the right thing to do is to encourage the kid. Another thing, if what he did is a felony, my parents would never see the light of day ever again, but I wouldnt change one thing about my childhood. EVERYDAY I see how how kids are and I thank god my parents disciplined me the way they did. I would have also loved to have it out with the nosy neighbor.
More than likely it could have been several things, I am 37 now so some of the details might be a little cloudy. Lying, not doing what I was told, SCHOOL grades.
OMG I guess its a southern thing..Small branches from Shrubs, or small trees.
Yes : 1st it taught me that I should have listened to what I was told to do. There was already a rule in place that it was NOT be left outside, it taught me there were consequences for my actions.
As an adult I learned just how hard it was for him to come up with the money to buy me that bike, and I showed him just how much I cared for it by leaving outside and getting stolen
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Just like I was TOLD I told her the rules of said IPOD. It doesnt go to school, it doesnt go to friends houses. It stays in the house or in the car. 4 years later she still has it.
My wife isnt my parent
4.Next time you grab your fathers belt (BTW- that's strange that you hold onto that, like some sort of weird memento or family heirloom that you now use to hit your kids) pause for a moment to think about whether or not you are acting out of anger. If you are masking your inability to control yourself with the notion that you are disciplining your child for misbehavior, then its you who needs the disciplining. The way you proclaim, "They are mine" and "you're mine" make it seem as if you take pleasure in inflicting pain and it makes it appear you are trying to be some sort of tough guy. Hitting a kid doesn't make you tough. Give it some thought. If I am mistaken on all counts, I apologize for the rant. I have no children, so feel free to disregard my post entirely.
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I think a long time before I spank, I have a conversation before and afterwards. If you read a few more of my post you would have came across the post where I mentioned I wanted to try things a little different than my parents.
The heirloom of the belt is a little stretch though. I loved my Father dearly, and I lost him in '98 to ALS which is why I have the belt.
I am a firm believer in Respect, ( yes mama and no sir ) probably a southern thing.
You couldn't be more wrong. I hurt knowing that I have to spank one of my kids. If I tell them "You bring me home a C, and we'll see what happens" And if I was to follow that up with ugh grounding then I am not living up to my promise. Therefore if they know they wont get a spanking then they'll do it again. So If I say "if you do that, you're going to get a spanking" then I as a parent have to follow up with what I said I'd do. I hate doing it more than anything, but I'd rather my kids learn the lesson that I am teaching them then ending up like their mother (drug addict and in an out of Prison) [my kids are from a previous wife] not the one in the picture.
Agree with what you stated Fatcat. I didn't like to get my butt whooped, BUT if I did something wrong obviously I deserved it. I honestly can say I didnt get spanked, I got WHOOPED and there is a difference. When I was young (5-7) it was a thin paddle, once I hit 8 it was my dads belt. My mom, whipped me with Switches.
To this day my mother apologizes to me claiming "I beat your @ss" I explain, "Mom, I wouldn't be the person I am today if I didnt get punished for my wrong doings" I love both my parents deeply. I have the same belt my father spanked me with when I was a kid.
Looking back, I was only spanked once out of Anger and I actually understand now that I am an adult. I wanted this COOL bike
My father already worked a full time job, and this bike was pretty pricey for the time 300$ '85 maybe. So dad picked up a paper route to buy me this bike (for christmas) but the rule was is that it comes inside every night. Well one day I was in a hurry to get to the skating rink and I left it outside and someone stole it. That was the worse @ss beating I ever received. I told this story to my Daughter (then 9) when I bought her the new Ipod Touch.
lol, I remember this bike, cool. oh btw switches werent just a southern thing, I know they were used in the mid west also, OUCH! lol
Never got spanked with a tool. Personally a slap across the palm of the hand got the message across.
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More than likely it could have been several things, I am 37 now so some of the details might be a little cloudy. Lying, not doing what I was told, SCHOOL grades.
OMG I guess its a southern thing..Small branches from Shrubs, or small trees.
Yes : 1st it taught me that I should have listened to what I was told to do. There was already a rule in place that it was NOT be left outside, it taught me there were consequences for my actions.
As an adult I learned just how hard it was for him to come up with the money to buy me that bike, and I showed him just how much I cared for it by leaving outside and getting stolen
YES
YES
Just like I was TOLD I told her the rules of said IPOD. It doesnt go to school, it doesnt go to friends houses. It stays in the house or in the car. 4 years later she still has it.
My wife isnt my parent
4.Next time you grab your fathers belt (BTW- that's strange that you hold onto that, like some sort of weird memento or family heirloom that you now use to hit your kids) pause for a moment to think about whether or not you are acting out of anger. If you are masking your inability to control yourself with the notion that you are disciplining your child for misbehavior, then its you who needs the disciplining. The way you proclaim, "They are mine" and "you're mine" make it seem as if you take pleasure in inflicting pain and it makes it appear you are trying to be some sort of tough guy. Hitting a kid doesn't make you tough. Give it some thought. If I am mistaken on all counts, I apologize for the rant. I have no children, so feel free to disregard my post entirely.
I think a long time before I spank, I have a conversation before and afterwards. If you read a few more of my post you would have came across the post where I mentioned I wanted to try things a little different than my parents.
The heirloom of the belt is a little stretch though. I loved my Father dearly, and I lost him in '98 to ALS which is why I have the belt.
I am a firm believer in Respect, ( yes mama and no sir ) probably a southern thing.
You couldn't be more wrong. I hurt knowing that I have to spank one of my kids. If I tell them "You bring me home a C, and we'll see what happens" And if I was to follow that up with ugh grounding then I am not living up to my promise. Therefore if they know they wont get a spanking then they'll do it again. So If I say "if you do that, you're going to get a spanking" then I as a parent have to follow up with what I said I'd do. I hate doing it more than anything, but I'd rather my kids learn the lesson that I am teaching them then ending up like their mother (drug addict and in an out of Prison) [my kids are from a previous wife] not the one in the picture.
I respect everything you wrote and I thank you for clarifying. To be clear, I hope you see that I was not coming from a place of attacking you or judging you, but rather from a perspective of someone who knows what it's like to be on the receiving end of an "overzealous" (to put it lightly) spanker. It goes without saying that it can be taken too far, but you make it clear that you don't fall into that category.
You sound like a great father, not that you need any validation from some random guy on an fish keeping internet website- lol. I misinterpreted some of what you wrote and for that I apologize. Back to the Setup and Filtration forum for me...I need to stay out of the lounge!
Nah, you just need to hangout longer, and in funnier threads... I appreciated your Old School quote earlier... lol
