sperm donor dying
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Talking with your father doesn't necessarily mean forgiving your father. Remember there are things about your history that can only come from him and your opportunity to learn those things is short. If you do not talk with him, you may be asking yourself "what if I had" for the rest of your life. If you have children or plan on ever having children, you need to know the medical history of your father's family. Ask yourself the family history things you know about your mom's family, do you know the same things from your father's side?
The main reason I say this is: If one day you have a child with a major illness and there was information that would have made a difference you could have gotten from your father, but didn't , will you be able to live with that?
Just my 2 cents.
The main reason I say this is: If one day you have a child with a major illness and there was information that would have made a difference you could have gotten from your father, but didn't , will you be able to live with that?
Just my 2 cents.
hmmm if it was me i would meet him. you dont want to regret anything when he is gone...but that doesnt mean you should forgive him or forget about anything. but meet and see how you feel i guess. whilst you still have the time to decide about the future
snoopy65;3002573; said:
too true. i had to hunt down my little ones dad when i had complications in pregnancy and after she was born.
didnt even consider it.
not afraid at all id crush him i am alot bigger then him and used to work as a bouncer i am afraid id hurt himMike fail;3001989; said:
thanks for the advice folks im gonna call. i think ill give him the chance to say what hes thinking dosnt meen i care just means he can die in piece i geuss anyone deserves that but i dont plan on being there for moral support he made the choice not to be a part of my life he had 35 years to try so did i i suppose lol he wouldnt even hurt my moms now when they got divorced she threw him thru a plate glass window and shes meaner now then she was then
fish junkie;3003642; said:thanks for the advice folks im gonna call. i think ill give him the chance to say what hes thinking dosnt meen i care just means he can die in piece i geuss anyone deserves that but i dont plan on being there for moral support he made the choice not to be a part of my life he had 35 years to try so did i i suppose lol he wouldnt even hurt my moms now when they got divorced she threw him thru a plate glass window and shes meaner now then she was then
good choice, let him have his say and then you wont regret not doing anything about it, no matter how you feel at the end of the day. i hope it all works out, let us know what happens
I think it all depends on you... not us to make that decision.. not anyone but you... and this thread i think only adds to the confusion you feel.... inside of you theres a place that holds all your inner most secretive emotions.. all your feeling are there.. have a talk with yourself.. weigh the pros and cons.. are you the type that will be even more emotionally upset after you meet him... or is it something you can live with.. have you always wanted to meet him despite what you know about him... there should be no shame with any way you choose... this is your right... and your feelings.. and no one should make you feel quilty no matter what you decide.. but you are the one who should decide..
i dissagree ive found that complete strangers are actually more honest when it comes to things like thisewurm;3003946; said:
but it is not going to be a life changing thing for me as i stated before i hardly know him just as i hardly know you and you hardly know me but your point is a good one lmao
however i have chosen what to do and i can live with not even responding at all i was looking for was unbiased opinion
