sperm donor dying

[Red Devil]

i dissagree ive found that complete strangers are actually more honest when it comes to things like this
but it is not going to be a life changing thing for me as i stated before i hardly know him just as i hardly know you and you hardly know me but your point is a good one lmao
however i have chosen what to do and i can live with not even responding at all i was looking for was unbiased opinion

.. i think that talking about it does help.. it makes you think and rationalize and ponder... all good .. but in the end it should still be your decision.and we all wish you the very best no matter what ... it is not easy to go through..

 

[Eupterus]

I think you should go just for closure for yourself. I don't think you need forgive for that.

 

[Nic]

write a second letter saying thanks for the TP i had just ran out ( im sure you can figure it out what to do with it) and mail both back to him..

 

[navygirl76]

do this for YOURSELF. not him. i would call him, and see how the conversation goes-say you are sorry he is dying but dont start asking him questions like "why were you never there? why did you abuse my mom? etc.." its not going to change anything.

you need closure for yourself. if he wants to meet up then go do it- but meet at a neutral place (restaurant) and just listen to him. I would have a hard time forgiving the man, but i would listen and have some compassion. You need to move on with your life and be happy with yourself in that you handled the situation maturely.

Im sorry he was never the dad you wanted him to be, he wasnt able to be that. But dredging up the past and making him grovel wont get you to feel any better. wish you the best-thats a hard thing to deal with.

 

[Juxtaroberto]

A lot of people are saying to either do it, or look inside your heart or whatever... but seriously, if this guy was so bad, does he really deserve to talk to you on HIS terms? Okay, now that he sees the end, NOW he wants to talk to you. Screw that! He made his bed. Now he has to lie in it.

But whatever man, it's your decision. I'm just telling you how I handled the situation (different circumstances, but somewhat similar).