The single biggest regret in my life...

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Well, as I approach the age of 40, I am stuck. Wheels permanently planted skyward. Every day I sit in a cube, for 9 hours. Tapping keys and moving a mouse. I format business documents. Does it pay well? Kinda, sorta - I mean, I don't have to eat cat food, and I have a roof over my families head, and we have two cars - so no complaints there. And my job almost pays the bills.

But when I go to sleep (which I find difficult to do) I always think about how passionate I was about fish when I was 10 or 12, and still am, as it is my top of the list hobby.

My job is, like for most North Americans, relatively unfullfilling.

If I could go back, If I had a chance to do it all again - i would persue an education and career path that would have me managing a fish/livestock department, or something like that.

Would it pay the bills? Not sure. And there's the rub. Doing something I love, probably wouldn't "almost" pay the bills like my current job does.

Perhaps this isn't a post about regret. Perhaps this is a post about how North American living forces us into slots. Forces us into mind numbing existence so that we can provide for our families.

I wish I was that 12 year old boy again, or at least meet him and tell him to enjoy the time he spends fishing at the creek more, or collecting frogs or snakes or toads.

Then again, I do get that chance, to tell that boy, my son.. and I think i'll do it tonight - after I finish tapping these keys and moving this mouse.
 
you do that... as a teenager all my friends i used to catch snakes and frogs with are now doing stuff like parties and sneaking out... but i am 14 y/o and still would rather go fishing or catch stuff for my tanks than do the stuff other teens are doing.
 
I'm 14 and I'm kind of worried about this myself. I checked out ichthology but it doesn't pay well. So yea this culture does kinda push you into a slot because I don't really want to work behind a desk all day bored out of my mind. But I kinda want to make a decent living at the same time.
 
You just need to change your perspective.

Our generation lives like kings and it might never be like this again. We have abundance of food and entertainment. This could be the pinnacle of human existence. The future can be bleak with resources dwindling, populations reaching critical mass, the environment saturated with poisons and breaking down- all this reaching a climatic head at the same time. And right now the technology that seems amusing now will be enforcing a Orwellian society in the future.

And the past, well there was plenty of starvation and disease. There still is today, but not for us.

FInd a new passion.
 
I was that same boy 17 year ago. I chose both but it was one hell of a ride to get there. 7 years of educations (after high school), debt like I wouldn't have believed and trwoing away a career as a commercial diver. Now I get to do both. Tell him to look into engineering (civil would be best) though the first years will be hell. I hated it for many years till I finished and got a fulfilling well paid job.

Although I have one regret that I will probably take to my grave, never having joined the USMC. No matter what you do there will be some regret.
 
I see where I benefit from my key tapping and mouse moving, and I am warm and safe at night.

But still, it's not what that 12 year old boy thought I would become.

Why can't I make a living doing what I love? Is it selfish? perhaps.
 
i would persue an education and career path that would have me managing a fish/livestock department, or something like that.

And end up eating catfood...as someone that did just that (managed, not ate catfood)), it's not exactly a financially stable career path...
 
the problem i have right now ... i love so many things in life .. and doing the same thing day after day is not one of them .. but .. being a engineer pays the bills and i love the freedom it gives me .. and at 25 i have no debt no car payment a motorcycle and lots of toys .. which i love .. but ... i hate getting up every day .. hate going to work .. and cant wait to get home ... so what do i do? stick it out for the financial freedom that it gives me .. or try to do something that i love to do and have to give up the life i worked so hard to get...???...

i guess it comes down to the meaning of life .. and since i dont know what that is .. i kinda stuck with this problem in my head ..
 
SimonL;3577459; said:
And end up eating catfood...as someone that did just that (managed, not ate catfood)), it's not exactly a financially stable career path...


That is my point exactly! Why should those in the pet/fish industry not be paid just as well as, well... someone like me?
 
Why can't I make a living doing what I love? Is it selfish? perhaps.
You can just get your son on the right track, then look at you options. My dad changed careers at 65 and graduated college when I was in grad school. The only time you are really stuck is if you choose to be.
 
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