You have a bad ground somewhere in the system. If everything is plugged into a powerstrip, the bad ground could be in the powerstrip itself. Try changing your powerstrip/splitter first, and make sure it's plugged into a fully grounded outlet.
If you eliminate the pwoerstrip from the potential bad ground candidates there is a device you can get called a GFCI converter. Basically it's like an outlet that plugs into your outlet and will accomodate any 3 prong device, however, as soon as it detects a mismatch in voltage between the positive and neutral terminals it opens the circuit. This will tell you definitively which device is failing the ground regardless of whether it's a grounded or ungrounded device.
As for the putting a ground in your tank, that's dangerous. Having no ground is better than having a bad ground. Since you already have a bad ground, creating a second bad ground will only cause an electrical fire.
Until you have this sorted out, I'd recommend not plugging in anything that you haven't certified as being ok from wall to operation, your tank, fish, and most of all house could potentially be on the line. Don't mess with electricity, especially 110v.