want to move on my own!
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With any new apartment/dwelling READ THE LEASE THOROUGHLY. I cannot stress this enough. A fishkeeping friend discovered too late aquariums over 20 gallons were not allowed. Some places will allow larger, but require that you take out insurance for possible damage from catastrophic failure of the tank(like a seam blowing out).
i advise you to listen to Oddball and Cholly. i can tell you that moving out on your own when your earning a wage is hard enough so i would imagine moving without one would be extremely difficult.
i suggest you save, save, save and then consider moving. take control of your own finances and pay your share to your grandma yourself. that way you can save as little or as much as you want without anyone seeing or knowing. should they find out you have a little saved they may ask to "borrow" some. i can tell you that you will likely never see it again.
from the way it sounds, you are your aunts meal ticket because you pay a large amount of rent and food while also paying some of the bills, she pays very little. if you leave she will have to pay. your grandma will also have a stake in you staying. they will probably try and prevent it because you pay so much money in.
if your going to move you need to save. to save you need full and sole control over your finances so you can account for every transaction. if i remember correctly months ago you said that your grandma has control over your income and inheritence from your mother if that is still the case then that has to stop. if your grandma refuses to give up financial control then speak to the charity you are working with to get advise on your rights.
and for as hard as it may be, you need to stop buying fish and tanks. only buy essential supplies for now, ie filter media/meds/food. that will allow you to save even more.
good luck.
i suggest you save, save, save and then consider moving. take control of your own finances and pay your share to your grandma yourself. that way you can save as little or as much as you want without anyone seeing or knowing. should they find out you have a little saved they may ask to "borrow" some. i can tell you that you will likely never see it again.
from the way it sounds, you are your aunts meal ticket because you pay a large amount of rent and food while also paying some of the bills, she pays very little. if you leave she will have to pay. your grandma will also have a stake in you staying. they will probably try and prevent it because you pay so much money in.
if your going to move you need to save. to save you need full and sole control over your finances so you can account for every transaction. if i remember correctly months ago you said that your grandma has control over your income and inheritence from your mother if that is still the case then that has to stop. if your grandma refuses to give up financial control then speak to the charity you are working with to get advise on your rights.
and for as hard as it may be, you need to stop buying fish and tanks. only buy essential supplies for now, ie filter media/meds/food. that will allow you to save even more.
good luck.
livebearerfreak;4062117; said:
its your legal right to have control over your finances unless your too young and have a legal guardian but you would have to be under 18 if im correct and your over that arent you?
if your over the age to be considered a minor then they cant stop you having control over your money. they will probably threaten you with kicking you out but remember you hold the power because you have the money they want to pay the bills. chance are they wont kick you out because it means losing the money you put in to the house.
Move out. You've complained on AC about this before, and I guess it's not getting any better. If you can get a 1 bedroom for $300 a month, move in there and get some savings up and then move to a bigger place. Fishroom is not in your cards right now though. It will cost way to much and take up too much time that you could use to work.
true, the only tank id have is my 75 gallon if/when i move out. and yes im the only one paying rent here, my aunt and her kids are not paying rent. im paying 400 for rent ( 300 for rent 100 for food ) and my aunt barly pays bills, plus she has a 19 year old daughter that is lazy as heck!
one more rant!
i have the living room as my bedroom but im TIRED of everyone walking in when they want to! my aunt walks in my granny ( well dont care as much of her walkin in as i do of my aunt ) her my aunts kids think they can walk in just cause its the living room...... gr i told them to get out when they come in but yet nooooooooooo they dont listen!
i have the living room as my bedroom but im TIRED of everyone walking in when they want to! my aunt walks in my granny ( well dont care as much of her walkin in as i do of my aunt ) her my aunts kids think they can walk in just cause its the living room...... gr i told them to get out when they come in but yet nooooooooooo they dont listen!
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