well your not the daddy, but you gotta pay child support
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totally agree-he raised the children into their teens-hes now dad.....like it or not.and hes a piece of chit if he disowned children he raised his whole life.that would be like any of us disowning our parents if as a teen you found out you were adopted or something.Nic;2665181; said:
its deff a very "unique" situation.... but he should after 16 yrs feel fatherly to those 2 girls...and not want them to go without ...i can deff understand the not wanting to give the ex the actual money...im sure the man has alot of feelings running through him right now...he may even change his mind after a little bit.. thats a hard pill to swallow ...im sure his feelings are hurt...
my old nieghbor... had a son with his wife... then she kept begging to have another baby but he didnt want to but she refused to take birth control or anything so he decided to secretly get a visectimy(thats deff spelled wrong but you get the point) and then 4 months later she comes to him and says she is pregnant all tickled and excited telling him hes a daddy...... amagine that she was all excited telling him hes a dad...and he knows its not his....
my old nieghbor... had a son with his wife... then she kept begging to have another baby but he didnt want to but she refused to take birth control or anything so he decided to secretly get a visectimy(thats deff spelled wrong but you get the point) and then 4 months later she comes to him and says she is pregnant all tickled and excited telling him hes a daddy...... amagine that she was all excited telling him hes a dad...and he knows its not his....
RedTailKinG;2672642; said:
i see your point, i have a step dad who is my dad in every sense of the word. he may not have donated the sperm but he is still dad to me. my father couldnt care less for me, he even quit working so he wouldnt have to pay child maintenance money while sponging off the state. so i know first hand that a proper bond develops and dna means nothing in most cases.
BUT, i still think its wrong for a court to order him to pay for kids that arent his when he has no legal tie to them. sure he probably has a strong bond and that doesnt go away after a dna test says the kids arent his but its still real bad that he is forced to pay for kids born out of an affair because his wife couldnt keep her legs closed. he probably would have carried on seeing the twins and paying money to them directly without a court order but the judge has added insult to injury by the decision.
These cases are more common than you'd think, and they're not just the result of divorces. Courts are not interested in bastardizing children who have 2 parents. It's not in the best interests of the child. I feel sorry for the kids because both of their parents are losers. She's a w ho re and I'd bet my 3 azuls against a minnow that she's lying about not knowing who the biological father is. And he's no better for putting those kids through hell. They know everything now that it's in the news (and probably all of their friends, classmates etc too), and I'm sure his rejection has scarred them for life.
Since she wanted more money and less visits from the hubby, if I were the judge, I would have kept the payments the same and give the husband longer time with the children after seeing the DNA test.
It sucks for the husband, just the fact that it is pure evidence of adultery, but he has payed child support since 97'(maybe 98' can't remember) and the twins are 16 now...... whats two more years?
Karma will get the best of mother......
....... your kids decide what nursing home to put you in!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It sucks for the husband, just the fact that it is pure evidence of adultery, but he has payed child support since 97'(maybe 98' can't remember) and the twins are 16 now...... whats two more years?
Karma will get the best of mother......
....... your kids decide what nursing home to put you in!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Kind of off - for one the children aren't the ones receiving the payments. Child support payments are fairly outrageous here in the states (I don't know how it is over in Canada) and often women don't even use all of the money on their children.
If it's true the judge is in the wrong - the "father" should by all means step up and be the dad to those kids, I don't think finding out they're not your blood is going to suddenly destroy your love for people you've raised for 16 years. But it should still be his decision on what they do and don't receive through him.
If it's true the judge is in the wrong - the "father" should by all means step up and be the dad to those kids, I don't think finding out they're not your blood is going to suddenly destroy your love for people you've raised for 16 years. But it should still be his decision on what they do and don't receive through him.
