What do I do now?

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scubasteve06;2229732; said:
I feel so bad for his two year old son though. I know he is asking where's daddy where's daddy. How do you explain that? If only I maybe had iterated a little more to call if he needed anything this wouldn't of happened I just can't quit beating my self up. I just want him to come striding up like he always did with a 12 pack in hand smiling happy as a clam. Damn what is a man to do!!!!!!!!!!
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Did you both have another friend.. a third friend.. maybe getting together with him would help.. maybe you should go talk to his family.. but one thing i know it is okay to cry and okay to miss him..but not okay to blame yourself at all...that is really sad about his baby son..
 
Sorry bro!It's not your fault!But it's not wrong to cry for a friend,and I fully support you!My prayers go to you,him,and his family
 
I called all of our friends that were able to make it out over to my house earlieer. Everyone said a prayer hoping the big man upstairs would show forgiveness, He was getting a divorve
 
I just lost a 35 year old friend to heart fail several weeks ago.Not too long back my ex girls friend shot herself in her 20s.Both her and I were not hanging out as much as we could with these ppl so when they died we felt bad about that,avoiding calls sometimes,you know the drill.Thing is,we all still loved eachother and 1 or 2 nights of fighting does not change years of being friends.I also have a friend that is suicidal,very intellectual guy but no common sense.Ive been trying to help him for 5 years or so but he gets himself into so many bad situations sometimes I want to kick his butt.We get in fights,he uses me,I know it,he tried to get me to do a drug he knew I had issues with many years ago and told him all about it so I told him HOW DARE YOU SON OF A B word,and bailed.We have fights and you know what,everyone hase doen all they can,trust me.I just have to accept that some day he may really do it.I feel that if they think they could do it once,they will always have that in them.What Im getting at is,you could have stopped him sure,if he truely wanted you to and he would hav called you,otherwise,its in their hands.He did not call because he had made the choice and if it wasnt him,then it was the drugs.Another reason to fight drug use but thats another topic.If anything,he would like you to stand up and say something good about him,maybe at the service,or just tell others about him.Bro,he most certainly would not want you to feel like its your fault or he would have told you so.Very sorry man,best wishes for healing,it takes time.
 
I have never had a friend commit suicide, but I have had friends die even when we were angry with each other. Dont' feel like its your fault it is not. Keep your head up pray and things will get better in time. You were trying to help him when discussing his drug use. Unfortunately, he wasnt ready to hear you. Lastly, stop drinking it cant help the pain will still be there when the beer is gone.
 
man, im terribly sorry to hear this. luckily nobody i know has done this, and i can only imagine what youre going through. honor his memory, but definitely dont blame yourself. each person is responsible for their own actions. keep your head up!!
 
Man, it's time like this that are the toughest.

All I have to say is this. It's easy to remember back on the negative, especially if it was the last thing that happened. A true friend wouldn't have dwelled on this, and you shouldn't either. As much as we want to have control, we can't. It was his life and his choice, and all you could have ever done was be a true friend and tell him the truth; which you did. This is what you should dwell on. While it's not easy to take and certainly not a pleasant thought, you did everything someone could ask and beating yourself up over "could have beens" will only bring on undeserved guilt.

It sucks that this happened, my thoughts go out to his family and yours.
 
OK now that I have had two day to refeclt and accept the situation I would like to report that I am doing better. I found the whole story out: At about 2:30 A.M. he went to jail for 7 warrants out for his arrest. Well he sent me some texdt messages at around 12:00 P.M. yesterday thtat soemone had narcd on him. Most MFK memebers know that I just moved back to South Carolina where I Have lived almost all 20 years of my life in from North Carolina for a year. Well he had developed a very chronic rececreational use of Oxycontin, Roxycontin, and xanax habit. I saw him with about 40-60 Saturday night when he came to my house. Now for one I moved to North Caroliona because I had an addiction to pain killes not anti.depreents So I thought nothing of it and he took all of them over the course from the till monday morning. He didn't meet his dad where the they normally meet. He waited an hour and called him. My friend toldthem they weren't his but this as happened over 10 times now and I personally knew they were his pills, He told my friend basicaly he was cutting him off. He sad "Dad you don't have to beleive me anymore." And hung the phonep. They own over 500 acres of land that they do landscaping with. 1000 gallon diesel tanks for the bobcats trractors and trucks. Well instead of going to the barn he went to the pond. She called his parents immediately because this was round 7:00 A.M. He always kept a Remington automatic 12 gauge behind his seat in a case. Well they found his truck and he wasn't in it, neither was the 12 gauge. His broher who is my age walked around to a little log pile and found him lying there. Kneeled, chin, trigger. But all anyone including my self is that he had a lot pof pain in his life no one knew about, short from myself but I never thought he had an addction that was so severre. So to all the people young or old maybe members mayme not. A drug is a drug is a drug. I am going to miss him. But thanks for all the kind encouraging comments and thought guys. The funeral is tomorrow and I am going to be a pallbearer.:)
 
scubasteve06;2239509; said:
OK now that I have had two day to refeclt and accept the situation I would like to report that I am doing better. I found the whole story out: At about 2:30 A.M. he went to jail for 7 warrants out for his arrest. Well he sent me some texdt messages at around 12:00 P.M. yesterday thtat soemone had narcd on him. Most MFK memebers know that I just moved back to South Carolina where I Have lived almost all 20 years of my life in from North Carolina for a year. Well he had developed a very chronic rececreational use of Oxycontin, Roxycontin, and xanax habit. I saw him with about 40-60 Saturday night when he came to my house. Now for one I moved to North Caroliona because I had an addiction to pain killes not anti.depreents So I thought nothing of it and he took all of them over the course from the till monday morning. He didn't meet his dad where the they normally meet. He waited an hour and called him. My friend toldthem they weren't his but this as happened over 10 times now and I personally knew they were his pills, He told my friend basicaly he was cutting him off. He sad "Dad you don't have to beleive me anymore." And hung the phonep. They own over 500 acres of land that they do landscaping with. 1000 gallon diesel tanks for the bobcats trractors and trucks. Well instead of going to the barn he went to the pond. She called his parents immediately because this was round 7:00 A.M. He always kept a Remington automatic 12 gauge behind his seat in a case. Well they found his truck and he wasn't in it, neither was the 12 gauge. His broher who is my age walked around to a little log pile and found him lying there. Kneeled, chin, trigger. But all anyone including my self is that he had a lot pof pain in his life no one knew about, short from myself but I never thought he had an addction that was so severre. So to all the people young or old maybe members mayme not. A drug is a drug is a drug. I am going to miss him. But thanks for all the kind encouraging comments and thought guys. The funeral is tomorrow and I am going to be a pallbearer.:)
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may he rest in peace and my best to you...
 
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