What do you look for?

[cichlid fiend]

In a relationship it seems one of the two needs the other for something($. e.support, etc..)

i think if u remove the need factor alot of us would be alone. That being said i tell my wife all the time if u think u can do better leave, Cause the way my mind state is "i know no mans a island" but ill make it own my own.

Love is tuff and when money is brought into the picture its even harder to coop with.

In a relationship the goals between parties BETTER be the same.

 

[Donny417]

I "looked" for qualities in this particular order:

1) Are they fun
2) Are they personable
3) Are they attractive
4) Intelligent
5) Successful

I've been married for 5 years now, with the same girl for 8.

If I could do it all over again, it would be:

1) Are they willing...
2) After we get married, will you still be willing?

That's really about it.

 

[Natural_Born_Killer]

In a relationship it seems one of the two needs the other for something($. e.support, etc..)

i think if u remove the need factor alot of us would be alone. That being said i tell my wife all the time if u think u can do better leave, Cause the way my mind state is "i know no mans a island" but ill make it own my own.

Love is tuff and when money is brought into the picture its even harder to coop with.

In a relationship the goals between parties BETTER be the same.

See, to an extent I do agree with you. But I don't think it is just NEED that keeps or brings two people together. I don't feel that I need my boyfriend for anything other than the person that he is.

I also know that I am perfectly strong enough to be on my own. Not that I want to be, because I choose every day to be with him.

I do agree that there should be goals that are between the couple, but I also think that having individual goals, no matter how small they are, is also important.

The way that I see it is that the strongest couples are two people who are strong individuals who choose to be together not because they want/need something from the other person but because they found someone they want to be with. I think unless individually you are strong, there is no way you can build a relationship.

 

[Pattiable]

See, to an extent I do agree with you. But I don't think it is just NEED that keeps or brings two people together. I don't feel that I need my boyfriend for anything other than the person that he is.

I also know that I am perfectly strong enough to be on my own. Not that I want to be, because I choose every day to be with him.

I do agree that there should be goals that are between the couple, but I also think that having individual goals, no matter how small they are, is also important.

The way that I see it is that the strongest couples are two people who are strong individuals who choose to be together not because they want/need something from the other person but because they found someone they want to be with. I think unless individually you are strong, there is no way you can build a relationship.

 

[Wet Whiskers]

Looked for and found a man who is intelligent, honest, fun, stable, motivated for success (aka a hard worker who doesn't shy away from a challenge), desire to try new things (on all fronts), able to blast NIN and turn around and appreciate an opera (meaning cultured), has a desire to travel, and share my fish obsession and love for animals. Nothing hotter than that a big, strong guy that baby talks animals. Its like you can come over here, put those arms around me and baby talk to me now...

Turn offs... liars, a man who constantly has to try to prove how macho he is, insensitive to others feelings, dirty hands and fingernails (you want to put that grime infested finger where!?!?), and a prickly chest or other things (your a guy- just let is grow, just tame it once in a while, I don't need him turning into a pad of velcro cause he's trying to pretend hair doesnt grow there. Girls, you better be on top of it cause you don't have the luxury of just letting it grow.) Don't let me find you hitting an animal or I might shoot you on the spot! If someone can abuse an animal, they'll abuse anything.

 

[Natural_Born_Killer]

In the end of it all I think that most women (not all) look for these basic things:

- Love
- Romance
- Consideration
- Commitment

 

[Natural_Born_Killer]

Oh yeah, and let me throw in

- Honesty!

 

[chloe]

Oh yeah, and let me throw in

- Honesty!

lol just throw that out there

 

[Natural_Born_Killer]

Well, figured it was an important one...
And with all the others, might as well

 

[chloe]

yea i spose honesty is a big part...unless it was a surprise for me....like a 5000gal lol i could look past that.

i just think u dont no what ur looking till u found it....i no i certainly havnt and maybe never will but ...hey ho