worst month ever....

[pacu mom]

When bad things happen, focus on the many good and positive things in your life. If you look, you will find many things to be thankful for. Those are the things to focus on. A positive attitude will take you a long way. Last year I was diagnosed with cancer. I lost 7 1/2 months from my regular normal life as I fought for my life. Every day I realized how much I had to be thankful for. I did not have to look far to find many people much worse off than I was...even my cancer was not as bad as other peoples' cancers. I wouldn't have wanted to trade my cancer problem with any of the other people who were receiving chemotherapy at the same time I was. I met terminally ill people who were facing their illness with great courage, dignity and grace. I had good medical care from gifted surgeons and oncologists. When I was confronted with my mortalilty, I realized that every day is a gift from God. Every day is a great day to be alive. Now, when I have an ugly day at work, if I remember that it is a good day to be alive, and that I am very fortunate to be well enough to work, all of a sudden, it is no longer an ugly day.

If you are not terminally ill, if your children are not terminally ill, if your children are healthy and do not have any major life-altering disabilities, then you are a very very fortunate person who should very easily be able to find many good, wonderful and positive things to be thankful for.

A positive attitude will get you through each day.

March 2006 just before my husband cut my hair off. The rest fell out later that week

June 2006 between chemo rounds, feeling well enough to play a round of golf with a visiting friend

If you have hair, be thankful for that.

 

[convict94]

my story is just my parents divorced about 4 years ago on christmas day(best christmas gift ever) some days i found my mom on the floor crying and i always just tried to comfort her the best way i could. she tried to spend as much time as she could with me and my sister. we would go bowling, to the movies...anything we could to have some fun.and thats all you need to do. I was 10 when my parents divorced so i was a little older than your kids. but eventually they will settle down if they get enough love from their family members.

 

[cichlaguapote]

Well...here's a story I'm willing to tell on MFK to lighten things up...

The last parts of that story were the best. I guess what I can say to the original poster which is proven by that post is everyone goes through bad times. But try to stay focused, make good decisions. If you need help with $$ try contacting local state offices to see how they may be able to help and if you're lucky enough to have family close they will help as well.

Christmas isn't all it's cracked up to be. Many people are merry and many people still suffer no matter the holiday. But try to make it the best you can and usually everything will turn out ok.

 

[Ash]

Well first good luck with everything, and I completely get you on things. The entire yeat of 2008 has had a fat bag of bad juju hanging over my head with one piece of bad followed by another and it just never ends!! =[ Just stay strong. Dont know much about younger kids but maybe they missed the "terrible three" and making up for it. Just try to make them happy without giving into them to much. I am sure things will work out good luck!

 

[navygirl76]

I dont have any children myself, but i can give advice from the viewpoint of a person who was a product of a nasty divorce. I was 7, and more than anything i wanted to know that my parents were ok (by themselves), that i was still loved by BOTH, and that i spent time with both parents..

Just try to spend as much time doing little things with your kids, tell them you love them and give them plenty of kisses! If you cant afford things for christmas, its really ok. People put too much emphasis on spending money-- and thats not what its about. Your kids are young... and wont know the difference..

As long as they know you love them, spend time with them it will be ok.. Keep your chin up and best of luck to you..

 

[armac]

Well first good luck with everything, and I completely get you on things. The entire yeat of 2008 has had a fat bag of bad juju hanging over my head with one piece of bad followed by another and it just never ends!! =[ Just stay strong. Dont know much about younger kids but maybe they missed the "terrible three" and making up for it. Just try to make them happy without giving into them to much. I am sure things will work out good luck!

2007?

 

[aquatic_wonders]

life really sucks sometimes but never stop hopping and dreaming...sometimes where down there sometimes up there.

 

[jasonmac978]

Sorry to hear the news. I am a product of 2 divorces and I turned out great. Just keep pushing forward. Keep loving your kids and smiling every day. It will turn out good in the end. Remember...Everything happens for a reason. Good luck and God bless.

 

[Peanut_Power]

Man, that really sucks!! If its any consolation, I've recently gone through some pretty traumatic things the past few months, not completely out of it yet, but things are definately looking better. Main thing is to just keep pluggin on, keep your chin up!! This too shall pass. It might seem like you can't make it or can't take it, but never EVER give up. You are better than that! Your a Nebraskan!! WE can talk all sorts of things!! I used to live in Nebraska, most of my life actually, , so I know what it takes to live there. If you can survive the weather, you can survive this!

 

[ZOO YORK 207]

My parents got divored when I was 12, now I am 15 and actually glad they did. My dad is so much happier, which makes me happier. Sorry for everything that happened this month just do what Li said and you should be able to get through it. We're rootin' for you!