ok, i didnt read the whole 15 pages, but i read the first two and the last one, and i dont think the subject got derailed at all, so heres my two cents.
this may sound selfish, but as i learned in ethics, everyones acts are about 99% of the time in their own self-interest, anyways.
my gf wants to have kids. i dont. i can respect the fact that she wants kids but i am still iffy on it.
my problem is that i have aspirations for my future fish tanks, all i am really concerned about is being with my gf, school, work, and fish.
and with these aspirations comes a price. she says she wants to wait a few years after we get a house to have kids, i could agree with that, but at the same time, i want to save up about 30,000 for my shed with ponds in it and three tanks in my basement. but what i see happening is that by the time that goal amount comes around, so will a child, and that money will be drained quickly on assorted purchases etc., therefore, killing my aspirations right on the spot.
i want to get these things set up as soon as i move into a new place, but i also see the money going towards furniture and appliances, you know, less important stuff...... plus with the food costs on some larger catfish, plus the electric and water bills, im afraid that once a child arrives, or even before that, all hope will be lost.
then it would turn into waiting "just another year....", into me not having anything and look its graduation day!
idk just how i see things playing out for me, i really hope that doesnt happen.....
i can really agree with you on not wanting to have kids. waking up in the middle of the night, the puking, pooping, the screaming (omg!), my gf's sister had a kid, and after about 10 seconds of screaming i am about ready to walk out of the room.
i did not know you couldnt get one until you were 30, which is crap, is 14 year olds can get abortions, why can we get an outpatient procedure done, its our body, our money, our choice.
although i dont want any, i will probably end up having one, but that is far down the road, thank the lord. and it is yet to be set in stone, and i am the only one who is able to pass the chisel if you know what i mean. (good pun eh?)
the biggest problem i have is that, i just got out of high school, and kids these days, have no respect whatsoever. id love to teach my child to be respectful, and to not be some *bleeped out word*, but its too hard almost.
id also like to make sure that they were raised much better than i was, really the only i have to like for being a parent.
theres my two cents
nitro