Anyone else secretly bothered by cichlid misogyny? (PIC)

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mother monster;5151546; said:
i can't stand seeing constant oppression like that in my tanks, which is why i'm not prone to cichlids, but i keep a blood parrot, compressiceps, texas cichlid, climbing perch, clown knife, bichir, and pacu in one of my monster tanks with no aggression whatsoever. i had a dempsey in there that terrorized EVERYone. the meanest fish i ever saw, i totally hated him for being what i saw as 'irrationally' mean [and later rationally just realized cichlids are low on my list of fish to keep because of their behavior]. i had to euthenize him because of all the terror/damage he was causing &there was nowhere for him to go aside from the taxidermy project bin. you never really know how aggressive a fish is going to be, either- that climbing perch i just mentioned? the only time he ever picks on anyone- is the bichir. wtf? and only for a second, and the bichir almost doesn't notice. weird for him to go all the way across the tank just to peck on the bichir 2 times his size. however, because they are what they are, from time to time [not even all that often] i see a short flashy argument going on and it's almost cool because it's natural, not destructive, and lasts for secons and both fish return to normal. mostly though i like dorkier fish unconcerned with hierarchy XD putting the divider in will just give you a temporary solution for the little girl while you figure out what to do, so even though she's not being beaten up she'd probably be a lot happier able to leave the log for once. it might end up having to be a 'her or him' decision, which is the choice i had to make with the dempsey never letting my other fish swim. i have the room now, but the dempsey looks good as a necklace, i don't think i want another live one x3 good luck :>
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wut
 
shellies215;5151544; said:
Maybe if she would clean the tank every once in a while he wouldn't treat her like that.
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Hey! I know you are half joking, but that reminded me of the fact that in her old tank, she cleaned the rocks all the time. In this one the kamfa does all the cleaning. You can see the slate with white pebbles in the pictures, I added that yesterday and covered it with pebbles, he has cleaned most of them off. I dont know which came first, her lack of cleaning or his abuse but if he could see that letting her out might help him with the cleaning might be a good reason not to keep her locked up all day.
 
had to euthenize him because of all the terror/damage he was causing &there was nowhere for him to go aside from the taxidermy project bin.
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You killed a fish because he was doing what evolution and instinct are telling him to do? That is disgusting. There is always someone willing to take fish.

To the OP: I would build a divider with a hole in it that was big enough for her, but not foe him. So she had a retreat but could still swim around and possibly breed.
 
Oscarum monstruoso;5151877; said:
If you are suggesting I am an enabler, you are wrong. I think theyre a good pair and I will split them up as a last resort only.
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If they're a good pair that's all fine and good. But if that's true, then you're contradicting yourself. You went to the trouble of making a thread about being secretly bothered by your fish hating his female (misogynist). He keeps her confined to a little tiny space twentyfour hours a day, seven days a week. Is that not something you'd consider a miserable existence?


Oscarum monstruoso said:
Anyone else secretly bothered by cichlid misogyny?
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Now I'm curious if you're bothered or not bothered?



Younglin;5151893; said:
To the OP: I would build a divider with a hole in it that was big enough for her, but not foe him. So she had a retreat but could still swim around and possibly breed.
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I agree, they should be split by a divider so she can come out.







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mother monster;5151546; said:
i had a dempsey in there that terrorized EVERYone. the meanest fish i ever saw, i totally hated him for being what i saw as 'irrationally' mean. i had to euthenize him because of all the terror/damage he was causing &there was nowhere for him to go aside from the taxidermy project bin.
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wait wait wait let me get this straight unless my eyes are playing tricks u killed the bully fish cause u didn't like the fact it was a bully. so this
"irrationally mean fish", your words not mine, was killed by u with the rational killing the bully is the best thing to do??? hahhahahaha sorry if me laughing offended anyone but i think that is hilarious... scratch that i am not sorry for offending anybody because if me laughing makes u feel offended then ur part of what is wrong with the world today. if my words will dictate how u feel then u need to bet more conroll of your self.
 
Get rid of one or prepare for the female to get sick from being stressed and dying if you can't separate them
 
:swear: this is how i feel about reading this thread - i cant even be bothered to explain why i feel this way. I get the impression it would be pointless......:screwy:
 
Well I have the divider ready, I added a female sized hole so the parrot can have some space of her own. However, I tried a strategy that I thought of on my own without any help from the posters on this thread who kept recycling old fish tips.

I fed him more than usual, and when he got stuffed he left her alone and let her eat. It seems he gets more territorial when he is hungry.
 
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