they do kinda look both like males... but if anything i think the label was wrong and the whiter one is male and duller colored is female. all my males from the past were nice clean white and females had a brownish white. I say let them settle in and for the time being drop a divider between the two so they can establish own territory. those guys are way too small to be bonded. with cichlids that small there bonds are very weak, it isnt until after they hit 4.5-6" before they really start maturing and forming a strong bond. also the more spawns the closer the pairs get. give them a few days divided and then pull it to see if they tak interest again, but at least this way your giving them theyre own space. otherwise the more dominant of the two will run the roost and the other wont have a chance. good luck