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I agree that maybe you should talk to your grandparents about how they worked out you need to pay $400 Rent, while your Aunt only pays $200...

I wouldn't exactly blame your aunt for paying your cousins rent (while she lives with her), but if there are that many more people on your Aunts side (B/F, Daughter, Baby one the way), and only one of you, then the rent situation seems to be one of the main things that needs to be sorted out so that YOU can start saving money for YOUR future...

Just be respectful about it though, and listen to their reasoning... you may find out its coz of some of the most trivial things such as your Aunt does all the cooking, cleaning, taking care of your grandparents etc... while you might just hang out all day doing what you want (just saying, since i honestly don't know your schedule)...

So just take it one step at a time and try and improve on your current situation, then start working towards a brighter and better future... no point trying to rush from A - Z in 3 steps coz you'll miss out on all the other important steps in between...
 
i know for a fact that she doesnt do a thing around here ( my grandad has to get after her to do the grass, grandmother has to get after her to do the dishes when its her or her kids turn and her upstaires *they rent the upstaires* is suck a mess that i cant even walk without stepping on cloths or paper or dishes or whatever ) so no shes not helping out around here. infact im doing most of it... and when my grandparents even try to get her to do stuff she runs to her bf and stays there for the night... a 38 year old running from house work... wow...
 
wow cant sleep! took part of my sleepng meds at 11 and now i took the other half just now so hoply ill beable to get to sleep! get an apt at 10 in the morning
 
^ Well, as i said i really don't know how things in your household are, but what it really comes down to imo, is that you really need to have a proper chat with your Grandparents and work something out coz it seems like things are a little in shambles atm...

Just going by what you just said, it would seem like if you weren't there, the house would be in a lot worst of a situation then it already is??? but again, i really don't know you or your family so i can't judge, not that i purposely would either...
 
Get the hell away from your family. Ive read some of your threads before and they sound very abusive and miserable. They are scapegoating you. The only reason your family wants you around it probably for your money. And what do you get in return? All the stress and fighting, and depression. Move out and stay away from them. The hell with their threats, be independent and tell them to screw off.
 
I say we get this guy onto Springer or the Steve Wilkos show,out of all of the people who follow these threads someone's got to have connections with the producers of at least one of those shows.
 
$400 a month is not a lot to spend to have a roof over your head. Especially being that you are 20 years old.

I moved out early, but when I had to move back in due to a divorce/ losing my house. I paid way way more than that.
I bartended in the evening for extra cash on top of my regular 9-5 job. Every night when I got home I would split my tips and give it to my parents to use towards what every. It was a respect thing. I was 22-23ish and had to swallow my pride and ask to move back in. They did not have to say yes at all. Friday nights it was nothing to walk out with $300m which meant my parents got atleast $150 that night.

Diabetics can be a bit moody. Until you are one and know what it feels like when your sugars are out of whack, please don't judge.

You say that the house is a mess, stepping on dishes, paper, clothes, etc. Why dont you take the initative and help clean up? Sit down and talk with the family and see if you can all take certain things that need done daily/ weekely and do them. I understand you think they are against you but I am going to disagree a wee bit.

They support you and let you move back in numerous times. They could have said no. Try not to burn bridges. Try to be a helpful member of the family and quit with Woe is me. Learn that not every thing will go your way but you have to deal with it.
I understand you think the world is against you but no one has the perfect life. NO ONE. You take what is dealt to you and do the best you can with it.

Make a list of what you want to get done and actually do it. Dont make excuses as to why you can not get it done. You have no one to blame for anything you can not do. Get rid of the extras in your life ( cigs, cigars, fish extras, etc)

What is the saying, when life gives you lemons make lemonade.


Damn what a rant, I must be having a bad day
 
Lol, all this talk about respecting his grandparents because they are his elders or because they are family. It is a load of rubbish. Respect is earned not demanded and it is not a right just because of age or family ties.
They let him move back because they enjoy the free ride they get from him, not because they are family.
I guarantee that if he moved out and wanted to move back they will let him do it as many times with the same warnings and threats because they like the extra money they extort from him.
They are abusing him mentally and financially.
 
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Lol, all this talk about respecting his grandparents because they are his elders or because they are family. It is a load of rubbish. Respect is earned not demanded and it is not a right just because of age or family ties.
They let him move back because they enjoy the free ride they get from him, not because they are family.
I guarantee that if he moved out and wanted to move back they will let him do it as many times with the same warnings and threats because they like the extra money they extort from him.
They are abusing him mentally and financially.
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You seem to know his grandparents pretty well..... Are you his aunt in desguise?
 
cichlid2006;4374917; said:
Lol, all this talk about respecting his grandparents because they are his elders or because they are family. It is a load of rubbish. Respect is earned not demanded and it is not a right just because of age or family ties.
They let him move back because they enjoy the free ride they get from him, not because they are family.
I guarantee that if he moved out and wanted to move back they will let him do it as many times with the same warnings and threats because they like the extra money they extort from him.
They are abusing him mentally and financially.
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They are abusing him mentally and financially? I call BS.

He is 20 years old. He should be paying something. He lives under their roof, eats their food, etc. He should not be getting a free ride at all. And to be perfectly honest I think there may be a bit of over exaggerating going on.

He does not seem to help out around the house, but complains of it being a mess. If it such a mess help clean it up. Do I get irritated when I have to do the dishes, run the sweeper, wash clothes? yes i do but it is called a " family" a household. You all chip in. He does not cut the grass his aunt does but he complains his grand father has to ask her too. Really? get off your butt and cut the grass, do the dishes, maybe cook a meal.

I can almost bet that if he puts forth a little bit of effort to make things better then they will in return.
 
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