dont think ill be here much longer.......

[cichlid2006]

They are abusing him mentally and financially? I call BS.

He is 20 years old. He should be paying something. He lives under their roof, eats their food, etc. He should not be getting a free ride at all. And to be perfectly honest I think there may be a bit of over exaggerating going on.

He does not seem to help out around the house, but complains of it being a mess. If it such a mess help clean it up. Do I get irritated when I have to do the dishes, run the sweeper, wash clothes? yes i do but it is called a " family" a household. You all chip in. He does not cut the grass his aunt does but he complains his grand father has to ask her too. Really? get off your butt and cut the grass, do the dishes, maybe cook a meal.

I can almost bet that if he puts forth a little bit of effort to make things better then they will in return.

I didn't say that he should have a free ride at all. I merely stated that going of his info he is being abused, 20 years old or not abuse is abuse regardless of age. If you read his posts, he states he buys his own food. They are taking advantage of him because he is disabled and an easy mark. They know he has nowhere else to go and they are using that to their advantage.
We do not know if he does chores or not, it hasn't been mentioned but considering they take double the rent for one person compared to his aunt and kids then he has every right to not do chores. Until they either up his aunts rent or reduce his then the chores should be done by them to make up for their lack of financial input.

I run a household and I can tell you it doesnt cost $400 or roughly £250 a month to let someone sleep in and power one room, even buying food for one extra person does not require that amount but he buys his own as he stated.
£250 pays my electricity and other bills for a month (tv license, sky, dog insurance, etc), minus food and rent. So what they are charging for one room is criminal, even worse when you consider it isn't even a private room it is a room shared by the household. Of course I am working on the assumtion that it doesnt cost much more/less to live in the US than it does here in the UK.

Give him advice instead of picking on him or questioning his situation. None of us know what he is going through, whether a lie or the truth, so question it if you know him and have seen it for yourself otherwise don't call him a liar when he asking for help, that is just cruel.

 

[soulpatch]

Depending on wher eyou are in the US $400 a month is as cheap as it comes.......

Around me to get a bedroom rented out in someone's house would run you around 600 a month if not more depending on the house and what the homeowner allows you to share as common areas. The you would have to chip in for all utilities on top of that.

My house the utilities are roughly 500+ a month alone.......Then I have the insurance, mortgage, taxes, ect.......

 

[livebearerfreak]

um, i do cut the grass ( more then my aunt and everyone one else besides my grandad ) i do the dishes, i do help around alot..... so you saying i shouldnt have a free rid? well what about my 19 year old cousin? she desnt have a job, neither does her bf, she doesnt even help around the house at all ( neither does my aunt ) with no job and all how is she suppose to buy stuff for her baby thats due this month? well let me tell you... she is relying on her mom to do all that cause shes to lazy to get a job ( she to doesnt have her ged OR hsed ) heck 90 percent of the family dropped out of school..

They are abusing him mentally and financially? I call BS.

He is 20 years old. He should be paying something. He lives under their roof, eats their food, etc. He should not be getting a free ride at all. And to be perfectly honest I think there may be a bit of over exaggerating going on.

He does not seem to help out around the house, but complains of it being a mess. If it such a mess help clean it up. Do I get irritated when I have to do the dishes, run the sweeper, wash clothes? yes i do but it is called a " family" a household. You all chip in. He does not cut the grass his aunt does but he complains his grand father has to ask her too. Really? get off your butt and cut the grass, do the dishes, maybe cook a meal.

I can almost bet that if he puts forth a little bit of effort to make things better then they will in return.

 

[kearth]

Not I do not think she should get a free ride either.

Again you say you help out alot but the house is a disaster? So you can not be helping out that much. Dont make some one ask you to cut the grass. Just cut it. Little things will make it so much easier. Attitude changes for one will make a big difference. And don't use the excuse they are mean to you. Who care. Dont mouth off back. Or take the steps and be a grown up. There is nothing wrong with waking up early, getting some chores done, asking you grandparents if there is anything they need done, job hunting, studying for GED, etc.

The excuse that half the family dropped out of HS is BS. Make an example of yourself then.

Every one here is giving advice. As well as pointing out the obvious. Not every one is going to take him by the hand and baby his way through this. Telling some one they need to get a job and GED is not really bad advice at all.

And I would be damned if any one was going to live in MY house and not do any chores. I do not care how old, how disabled, or how lazy. You live there you need to be responsible for the way the house look, smells, is taken care off.

Sorry if that comes of harse but I don't mean to be but some times the truth hurts.

$400 a month aint nothing in the real world. I would love to have a place to love that I only pay $400 a month and have to buy my own food. I do not think though he is the only one that buys food.

 

[balton777]

If you want to move down to Dallas, my buddy owns a fence company and I can get you a job if you're willing to work hard. It pays $12/hour to start and you can probably get in about sixty hours a week. With overtime you'll make about $3500.00 monthly. I know it's not much, but it's not bad for a twenty year old kid and it's definitely more than you're earning now.

 

[fishy12]

no i still smoke, hard habbit to quit!

You have to want to quit if your gonna. if you really try then you can. You must want it for you not for any other reason...

 

[pURPLEcHILLIrED123]

um, i do cut the grass ( more then my aunt and everyone one else besides my grandad ) i do the dishes, i do help around alot..... so you saying i shouldnt have a free rid? well what about my 19 year old cousin? she desnt have a job, neither does her bf, she doesnt even help around the house at all ( neither does my aunt ) with no job and all how is she suppose to buy stuff for her baby thats due this month? well let me tell you... she is relying on her mom to do all that cause shes to lazy to get a job ( she to doesnt have her ged OR hsed ) heck 90 percent of the family dropped out of school..

LBK, stop blaming your aunt's family for this and that, you are 20 years old... MAN UP. They did not put you in this situation… NO ONE FORCED YOU TO MOVE BACK IN. This is America… if you can’t make it here…. YOU CAN”T MAKE IT ANYWHERE.

And who the hell puts 75g OPEN TOP kiddie pool in their room as a fish tank… Who does that? YOU...

http://www.monsterfishkeepers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=334633&highlight=kiddie+pool

 

[balton777]

LBK, stop blaming your aunt's family for this and that, you are 20 years old... MAN UP. They did not put you in this situation… NO ONE FORCED YOU TO MOVE BACK IN. This is America… if you can’t make it here…. YOU CAN”T MAKE IT ANYWHERE.

And who the hell puts 75g OPEN TOP kiddie pool in their room as a fish tank… Who does that? YOU...

http://www.monsterfishkeepers.com/forums/showthread.php?t=334633&highlight=kiddie+pool

Big deal. This kid isn't able to man up yet but he'll get there eventually. His parents died years ago so he didn't get the chance to learn how to do some of the things you and I take for granted. On top of that, he's autistic and has learning disabilities. So how about this Mr. High and Mighty, why don't you man up and be a little more sympathetic to people less fortunate than yourself. Who's to say you won't bump your head in a car accident and become just like him? I think that's called karma.

I'm not saying he should get a free ride but he needs some guidance and moral support.

 

[bomber]

Man up son. It starts with keeping your WORD.

 

[livebearerfreak]

that thread was from along time ago.... all have is my 112 gallon fish tank in my room ( living room ) and thanks for the postitive remarks all