You deserve better. usually this kinda stuff happens to women.. my x-fiance played these same games with me. Even with debt my husband and I managed to find a way to get married, and we live on our own together. his debt stems from winning the lottery at 18 not alot of money.. but enough to get him in credit problems. And you bet before I married him we sat down and I had him come clean w/ all of it. It was hard for him to do, it's alot of hard honesty to take from the side-lines let alone the center.
but my point is.. If she wanted out from him, She would be away from him.
I was smart enough I guess to get out of the relationship I was in prior before it got bad. and it sucked begging my parents to let me move back in with them, and doing what I needed to do to get on my feet.
She's eithe rplaying you, or seiorusely diludeing herself.. which either one will bite only you on the ass in the long-run.
as for the fish.. it's a moot point. Your over-stocked and you know it. btw.. fishkeeping is neither just a "hobby" or "toys" to me but part of my family.