its happened to me and my gf, we got along pretty good for awhile then she told me that i was being too immature and freakish for keeping fish and said she wouldnt date me if i kept them, but i hardly talked about them, sometimes things like this happen, id recommend just sitting down and telling him how you feel about it all and maybe give a threat or 2 just to see how he reacts, but nothing extreme ya know?
Has fishkeeping ever ruined a relationship?
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+1 on getting off the forum, i went from a 75 45 20 10 10 1.5 to a 75 and 20L (dont count my girlfriend's tank i taught her to take care of it herself) - this is a great place for information but also a place that builds a lot of ideas in your head and has you always wanting more - the urge is much easier to control without this site putting ideas, albeit really good ones, in your head
I think what some of you are not getting is that I am NOT the one buying more fish.. So me being off the forum wouldn't really change anything.
He is RARELY on this site. His ideas come from just thinking about fish and being a handy person.
He is RARELY on this site. His ideas come from just thinking about fish and being a handy person.
oh =\ well crap. only other thing i can think of is try to get him to realize he needs to find what he really wants out of the fish hobby, when i had all those tanks running i just wanted more more more more because i hadnt found anything that really stuck with me. when i got rid of a few and then set up my 20L mini-reef i realized that a small saltwater tank is really what i needed and wanted all along, still love my freshwaters but salt tanks just have a greater affect on me i guess you could say - find that focus and that one or 2 things he really really really likes and then trim the rest of it down
Damn throw your boy over to me ill turn *** if he buys me fish haha just kidding but i dont see a problem with whats going on just let him have fun with his fish. I see a jealous girlfriend. He has more money so his tanks are nicer than yours and it makes you jealous 
lol. but seriously look at this as a plus your both doing something you love. next time he wants to get a fish let him know you want to spend more time with him and suggest going to the movies or bowling instead of a fish store. make it fun. have some competitions if you win in bowling he has to get you a fish if you lose youll get him one. im a guy and i dont catch hints from my girl dont get frustrated be straight foward
lol. but seriously look at this as a plus your both doing something you love. next time he wants to get a fish let him know you want to spend more time with him and suggest going to the movies or bowling instead of a fish store. make it fun. have some competitions if you win in bowling he has to get you a fish if you lose youll get him one. im a guy and i dont catch hints from my girl dont get frustrated be straight foward
If your worried about the hobby becoming an obsession remind him of the fishes health. You cant just keep adding or its gonna be over crowded and theyll start dieing off. If he suggests another tank say you wont have the room for it or its too expensive. hell understand and just let him know you want to spend more time with him going out. Girls costs more money then fish trust me. after your through with him not saying your a gold digger but after you guys start hanging out more he wont have as much money to get fish everyday like your saying
If he iis not doing drugs gambiling drinking womanizing? What the hell? Liet him enjoy the fish. I'am sure he isn't talking fish 24/7. I solved my promblem by keeping only 1 tank. Ewsy water changes and when I want other fish I donate current stock and buy new theme. Fishfood billl is nothing also.
Also, doesn't this guy pay for the majority of your hobby and help you set up tanks and stuff? And he's obviously supportive of your career goals and willing to financially back them? You've got Cadillac problems dear, look around and see the challenges and struggles other couples go through and still make it work.
Seriously, you can't have your cake and eat it too. What if he were to say he didn't want to be with your because you're not supportive enough of his hobby? Things can go both ways.
Seriously, you can't have your cake and eat it too. What if he were to say he didn't want to be with your because you're not supportive enough of his hobby? Things can go both ways.
