Has fishkeeping ever ruined a relationship?

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Didn't you post this the other day?


mshill90 said:
Awesome.

My fiance is building me a rack system of about 15 30 gallons, and I have a few larger tanks just for my breeding ideas. :)

He thinks I am crazy, but then after about a week of me yapping about it he gets into it too! I love it!
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And now you're complaining about him? I don't get it... :confused:
 
^ lol
 
I, too, think someone is a little jealous.
 
it sounds like you both need to find other hobbies to pursue individually. It is great that you both like the same thing, but I feel the key to a successful relationship is having something to yourself. Not something you keep a secret, but something you enjoy without the other person.

For example: My SO and I have been together almost 7 years. When we met he liked old cars, dirtbikes and antique garden tractors. I had two riding mules, and was into hiking/exploring and fish. He didn't know much about my hobbies and I didn't know much about his. Now, I enjoy old cars (I bought my own project and we are slowly working on it together) and garden tractors (I am the official parts finder) and he enjoys the mules (helps out at the barn and shows) and comes hiking with me and enjoys my fish tanks.

Saturday can come and we can both go our separate ways for the day, meeting up for dinner later. He does his thing, and I do mine. Sure, sometimes we do stuff together but its nice not to have to be together every single moment because you both like the same thing. I think when two people in a relationship are both passionate about the same thing (in your case fishkeeping) a sense of competition tends to arise. I'm sure its not intentional, but I've found that one party tends to compare themselves to the other and if its not dealt with, it can fester into the end of the relationship. IMO it takes a lot of work to keep a relationship where both parties are intensely passionate about the same thing working, which is why I suggest you both find different things that interest you.
 
Just love to turn crap around don't ya!!! uhhh huh, yeah all you dudes.. ;)


All the OP is saying is that she would like to have a bit of her boyfriend back... without all the fish talk/activities... that's it. Besides that all of you want to give advice on how to fix it, when she didn't ask for that either...

My bf and I have been able to find a happy median and it works.. there is still time for dinner, movies, shopping all that good stuff without having to go all fishy about it..

OP have you straight up told him how you feel?
 
fishmamma said:
All the OP is saying is that she would like to have a bit of her boyfriend back... without all the fish talk/activities... that's it.
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well if thats all thats easy... thats what boobies are for ^_^
 
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