How can she be so hurtfull?! :'(

[neoprodigy]

now this might sound strange coming from me

yes its strange from someone calling his right hand his girlfriend....

 

[drgnfly829]

Hey Adam sorry for your pain
it was thoughtless and immature on her part,
many times you don'y know what you have until it's gone
going away to a big school spells the end of a lot of relationships though
in the end doing anything to "get back at her" will only harm you
time does heal all wounds just don't wait 'til you're 40


delgato just curious, how old are you 12?

 

[Aquatic Dreams]

I only read the first couple of pages. So Im only giving advice for those pages..
I was in a relationship for 11 yrs, 4 of those we where married, We have 2 great boys.
About 3 yrs ago she decides that she wants a divorce because she wants to start seeing other people. Mmm nice, So she kicks me out!!! And I leave the house that I helped build, with nothing,
Now... I loved this woman from the first day I saw her to the day she kicked me out. There was nothing wrong with our relationship at the time (on my part anyway) She said she wasnt "in love " with me anymore. It took me a little over 1 yr to get over that. I lost 40kgs and went through alot of stress, but in the end.. I have a new g/f of 2yrs who adores me, A 9mth old daughter that idolises me and great 2 sons that I see every weekend.
So the what Im trying to say.
yes I was in love with this woman, but After ditching me (& I found out she was sleeping with other guys when we where married) I found someone who wouldnt do that to me.
So life goes on, even if you think it wont, & believe me I thought about taking my own life, But what does that prove? Nothing.
Enjoy life to the fullest..
Anyhoo, Im off to play with my daughter.
Hope that helps.
Cheers
Aquatic Dreams.

 

[MrRngr94]

Good point. ^^^^^^

 

[DeLgAdO]

yes its strange from someone calling his right hand his girlfriend....

haha wtf?

 

[Mourinho18]

she has cheatd on me and screwed some other guy 5 times..

I'm sorry dude. No matter how much you love this girl, 5 times is no accident. If she had done it once and immediately told you about it, that's something to consider, but 5 times is no accident. She had to have thought about what she was doing, ie, premeditated it all.

but I know to myself, even if we try to rekindle things in the future, I will never be able to see her in the same light again... Let alone not be sure if I can trust her not to hurt me again.

Again dude, far be it for me to tell you what to do, but it seems like you would be better off, atleast for yourself to just end the relationship. Whatever you end up doing though, do what's best for you.

 

[awdawg]

So she's away at college? How often do you see her and how much time does she have left there? I think her saying she's in a big school is just her way of making her feel a little less guilty about it. And unfortunately the only way you can ever know if she will do this again is by giving her a second shot and hope she learned from her past mistake. I forgave my wife, but it still hurts, even after 6 years. I also told her that if it ever happens again I will divorce her and take the kids and the house. I'm not trying to threaten her, but I am trying to make her think of what her actions can do. You have a hell of a decision to make. Don't make it based upon what I or others say or what other people might think about you. Make it based on what will truly make you happy. Good luck bro.

Yeah she's away in college, 2 hours away from me, saw her pretty much every weekend. As for it as an excuse, I think that'd be the lamest excuse ever, she's in school at Northern Illinois (dekalb) and this guy lives in madison wisconsin... probably farther then what it would be if she would of spent that time driving here to make me feel special and get her "fill" :-/ really bogus.. I'm thinking thats probably a 2 and a half to 3 hour drive... although she drove it not me... so I'm not sure... saddens me though...