how many people have divorced parents?
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Cohazard;879796; said:
Mind saying how old you are?
I understand not wanting to talk about it, but for most people, including me, as time went on I became used to the questions. I no longer try to avoid it, I'm also not embarassed about it. Eventually I figured out it was not my fault, nor was there anything I could do about it. I have nothing to be ashamed of.
My parents divorced when I was 10, I'm 25 now. My father was laid off from work and slipped down the slippery slope. Started drinking, not coming home and a whole lot of lies. He eventually fessed up to cheating and having another child. If it weren't for her medical problems I doubt he would have ever told my mother.
I haven't seen my father since then. He literally dissapeared. My sister and I came home from school to find the house half empty We knew he had went to Washington to live with her, but not exactly where in Washington. We never heard from him again untill my mothers private invstigator found him. He wasn't too happy about being served papers for child support and a lawsuit to pay for his share of the debt.
WHile I've never seen him since, I have spoken to him a few times. It almost always ends up in an arguement (someone who didn't raise me isn't going to tell me what to do). My sister lives near him and has a "relationship" with him. I put it in quotes because it's more that she tolerates him than anything else.
I don't wish any harm to come to him, but I don't exactly care about any of his problems.
FWIW, he still makes excuses for what he has done, he even tries to blame it on my mother. That is why there is so much tension between us.
I'm 21. I'm not ashamed about it, not embarassed, I don't blame myself, or my parents. What happened happend. It's just that personally (I emphasize personally, because I'm not judging anyone elses decisions), I don't see any reason to discuss it.
I fully understand how talking about it helps some people. I'm just not one of them.
I fully understand how talking about it helps some people. I'm just not one of them.
My parents just had a huge blowout, not pleasant. My mom said divorce but they are now watching everybody hates chris together. God please no
I've hit the 1/2 century mark. I can't remember exactly when (my memory is poor) but my parents divorced I think when I was sr. in HS. my dad was/is a gambler so everything was about his gambling, nothing could get in the way of it. it was his full time job & his real job was his hobby to past time by. he was nasty & a terrible father. but when he won he "won" us over with $. as kids growing up, having $ in the hand was golden.
but my parents fought so much it was a terrible upbringing, we epitomize the most dysfunctional family you can imagine. & he was abusive to us, beat the living bejeebers out of us.
dad's social skills were none, he spoke too loud in conversations, opinions too strong & no one could argue a pt with him w/o getting into a fight. smoked cigars at home during his poker games. dinner was server promptly at 6pm every day, couldn't be late for dinner & had to finish every morsel on our plate or be punished.
never helped with HW, barely went to my baseball or basketball games (tho he loved watching our vball tournaments), not your typical loving dad.
so when my parents got divorced my bro & I were so relieved.
he found a few g/friends afterwards & one he is with now he is taking advantage of because he can't live alone. that use to piss me off but out of sight out of mind really.
so here is the kick in the butt deal! my mom & dad became more friends than they ever were while married & even went on group vacations together! ain't that a kick in the pants?
to this day tho, my dad aging & with bodily issues is not as bad as he used to be. mellow maybe? no, just not interactive with us anymore.
he is a lot more tolerable but then again me & my bro have our own lives. we still treat him for father's day & bdays, see him during family holiday gatherings or funerals or births.
when he passes I will shed a tear & will feel very sad. a loss of a father who I wished was more of one to me/us when we were younger.
what's that song or 2 we all should remember?
the living years by ??? a great song
& cat's in the cradle by cat stevens
btw - I am divorced & re-married. trying hard not to lose this one but life is tough!
but my parents fought so much it was a terrible upbringing, we epitomize the most dysfunctional family you can imagine. & he was abusive to us, beat the living bejeebers out of us.
dad's social skills were none, he spoke too loud in conversations, opinions too strong & no one could argue a pt with him w/o getting into a fight. smoked cigars at home during his poker games. dinner was server promptly at 6pm every day, couldn't be late for dinner & had to finish every morsel on our plate or be punished.
never helped with HW, barely went to my baseball or basketball games (tho he loved watching our vball tournaments), not your typical loving dad.
so when my parents got divorced my bro & I were so relieved.
he found a few g/friends afterwards & one he is with now he is taking advantage of because he can't live alone. that use to piss me off but out of sight out of mind really.
so here is the kick in the butt deal! my mom & dad became more friends than they ever were while married & even went on group vacations together! ain't that a kick in the pants?
to this day tho, my dad aging & with bodily issues is not as bad as he used to be. mellow maybe? no, just not interactive with us anymore.
he is a lot more tolerable but then again me & my bro have our own lives. we still treat him for father's day & bdays, see him during family holiday gatherings or funerals or births.
when he passes I will shed a tear & will feel very sad. a loss of a father who I wished was more of one to me/us when we were younger.
what's that song or 2 we all should remember?
the living years by ??? a great song
& cat's in the cradle by cat stevens
btw - I am divorced & re-married. trying hard not to lose this one but life is tough!
This was a sad bump. As cohazard says, its a scar from the past and I think its best to leave it as that.
my dad was a man whore he cheated on my mom bunches. before that he had a daughter that he walked out on in the delivery room. then my dad meet my mom then there was my older brother 4.5 years later me. then he cheated on her a year later. had a kid with someone esle did the same thing the first and second time left. then he finally setteld down then had another kid. still with that wierdo! and that kid is dumb as a door knob. is that enough.
Mine divorced when i was like 1 year old, and It wasnt either of their fault... And theres no hard feelings between them.
