I don't even know what to title this. (rant/vent)

[Warborg]

Then maybe it's good to explain how much value the fish has to yourself and that this sort of event is very upsetting.

It's worth a shot, but an example is my wife. She could care less about my fish. She only deals in eating them(not mine but fish in general).

 

[imabot]

Sorry to disagree but some people don't place much value in a fish(compared to a dog or cat).

Fair enough. But OP obviously had a lot of affection for it. It's not like a book he can buy another on amazon.

 

[Deadliestviper7]

Is this young man running a lab set up?

A betta with good genetics and care can live a while, 7-10 years in a decent size tank, heck I've seen one live over 12, 99pwrcent of them aren't cared for properly, the most common causes of death are overfeeding and health related illness from not enough space

 

[Deadliestviper7]

Is this young man running a lab set up?

A betta with good genetics and care can live a while, 7-10 years in a decent size tank, heck I've seen one live over 12, 99pwrcent of them aren't cared for properly, the most common causes of death are overfeeding and health related illness from not enough space

 

[Deadliestviper7]

I would go through with something like that, but she's gonna buy a 29 gallon for me and anytime I tell her something along the lines of "I'm the one that has to feed the fish, take care of the fish properly, and study the fish for hours, you shouldn't be making decisions until you at least study keeping fish properly" she says she won't buy it. I know for facts it's an empty lie but she's thrown out an xbox or two of mine just because I would tell her that I bought _____ and I can decide what to do with it, not her.

I'd give my mom the 10 gallon so she can give fishkeeping a try, but she hasn't studied up a single bit.

She thinks a 55 gallon is too much for a foot long fish. Every time she tells me to get a common pleco, oscar, flowerhorn, hell, even mollies, I have to tell her they grow too big for me to keep. She always says," Why does that matter? It's not like the fish is gonna grow to that size in a week! We'll give it back to the store when it gets too big for the tank" then I have to explain to her about how the fish will stay too small forever due to stunting, and it'll die a very painful death. She never listens though! But since it's my money, even if I get punished for it, I say it'd rather be me than the fish.

Keep in mind that she's a very devoted christian, and she always says that the bible says this and that about making other living beings suffer and how it's wrong, she gave me an incredibly long lecture on how feeding baby guppies to bigger fish is cruel and sinful, yet she's perfectly fine with grabbing my fish out of the tank and looking at them for more than anyone would want her to (that's how she killed my oranda), and thinks stunting fish and making them suffer in such situations is okay.

I forgot where I was going with this, but uh, yeah.

Your mother claims to know god, but it sounds like her behavior is far from it, call her out in church.

Theft is sin.
cruelty is called out many times in the Bible, yet apparently she isn't paying attention.

 

[Warborg]

Guys...guys, while a healthy debate is fine. You don't start fights with you parents...it could end badly and even have lifetime effects. In theory, everything in the house is the parents until the children turn 18.

Try to have a polite conversion and maybe even ask if you two can draw up a contract of sorts to be respectful of others things.

 

[skjl47]

...guys, while a healthy debate is fine. You don't start fights with you parents...it could end badly and even have lifetime effects

Hello; This. Trust and respect are things you never quite get back once lost even with a parent. A fish is not worth such a loss.

 

[mattison187]

Your mother claims to know god, but it sounds like her behavior is far from it, call her out in church.

Theft is sin.
cruelty is called out many times in the Bible, yet apparently she isn't paying attention.

Everyone is leaning tward the parent beeing malicious by moving the paradise fish, but her original intent was to help that fish in distress out in the first place.. Dont hold a grudge, and deff dont take the advice of the guy suggesting stealing your parents cellphone and stuff lol. Use it to better educate her in the fishkeeping hobby and, in turn better the relationship with your mom by connecting through it. Who knows, it may get you a big boy tank sooner or later. Adults generally go big when into a hobby.

Btw viper not singling you out or anything, you were just last post

 

[Deadliestviper7]

Guys...guys, while a healthy debate is fine. You don't start fights with you parents...it could end badly and even have lifetime effects. In theory, everything in the house is the parents until the children turn 18.
keep in mind that legally speaking , if the kid buys stuff with his own money, it is his property unless he gives it away.

However yes, you should attempt to build bridges, not burn them.

 

[Hendre]

It's worth a shot, but an example is my wife. She could care less about my fish. She only deals in eating them(not mine but fish in general).

Well she doesn't have to care, as long as she doesn't mess with them.